Most of the time we as humans run around in a hurry everyday. We try to take care of our families, and pay the bills. In fact, our lives are so active that we rarely have time to address our problems, and more over, we don’t even realize who we are as people. The problem with learning this is, you have to spend a considerable amount of time alone.
People generally don’t like to be alone. We would rather be with our family and friends socializing. The thought of being alone scares people. To some it is sad and lonely. To others it is extremely boring. It used to bother me until I was put in a situation, where I had no choice but to be alone.
When I married my husband I moved from the city to the country. I no longer had any friends that were close to me, and the nearest family member was a thousand miles away. Even my neighbors were at least a mile away. I had severe culture shock, and became depressed for a time.
Little by little I began the process of knowing myself. I have always analyzed other people, and their problems. It comes easy to me. However analyzing yourself is a whole different matter. I viewed my life from the outside, and I knew I needed to make some changes.
The first thing I needed to change was my perception of myself. I have always been a giving type of person. Ignoring my own needs for the needs of others. Of course this behavior is honorable, it is not a rule to live by. A person has to take care of themselves, and on occasion put themselves before others. It is not selfish, but imperative to their health and well being.
For me it was simply learning to love myself. After that everything kind of fell into place. I began doing things that I truly enjoyed. Like crafts, cooking, and I also have a new found respect, and love for nature. Now I am not bothered by being in solitude. I believe it is all about being comfortable in your own skin.
My grandmother used to tell us kids, that if you can’t be good company to yourself, how could you be good company to anyone else?. There is so much truth in this statement.
My suggestion is to embrace your alone time. Try out new things that you are curious about. Or just take a long hot bubble bath, and relax. All these things are beneficial to our health, which is why we as human beings need solitude.
