The dictionary describes self-esteem as one’s good opinion of oneself or self-respect. Self-esteem is a basic human need and is indispensable to normal and healthy self-development and survival in this rat race. It is something experienced as a part, or all, of an individual’s thoughts, feelings and actions.
Self-esteem is a concept of personality, it refers to a person’s disposition to evaluate ones self positively or negatively in an unconscious manner. Self-esteem is how you see yourself and what you feel you are. Never underestimate your self. Look for your positive points. Weigh your negative points and act on improving them, instead of letting the points weigh you down. Life is not always smooth sailing. There are bound to be the small storms that upset the boat of life. Like a true sailor weather out the storms. Good weather is always bound to come. In fact it is during these times that you get the opportunity to plan for those off days.
Instead of focusing on the negative thoughts like failure in an exam, think positively, think of what you would like to do as soon as you pass the exams. This will help keep the negative thoughts out. There are bound to be moments in your life in which, you will be judged by others, and not necessarily in a positive way. Instead of criticizing the judge, try to analyze why the point did not go in your favor. When you underestimate yourself you are always seeking praises for a job done. This means you are not confident of your actions. Once a job is done stop worrying about it.
Focus on the next job in hand. Try to see what you could do to improve your methods of working. Whenever doing a job, however small or big, put your heart and soul into it, and always focus on the job in hand. This will go a long way in your estimate of your capabilities, and boost your self-esteem. Never do a job because it needs to be done but rather focus on how it can be done well. Always try to assess yourself realistically. Do not allow yourself to be treated like the proverbial “foot-rug”. If you do, expect to be treated like one. It will not be good for your self confidence. Treat yourself like you are someone special and remember that you are.
Self-esteem goes with good health. Eat healthy fare, and exercise daily. Even a brisk thirty minute walk is good for the body and a good builder of confidence. Always be presentable, do not have that “dowdy” look. See yourself in the mirror and decide whether you like what you see. If not, it is time to have a makeover. Consult a good friend on this and take the advice after thorough consideration. Do not fail to congratulate your self on a job well done. Go celebrate – visit that new restaurant that has come up near your house with a friend or a family member. Go shopping for that item you have always wanted – this is always a morale booster. Do not berate yourself when you make any mistakes. Do not be afraid to make mistakes but, always learn from them and if possible do not repeat them. Above all be mentally strong, it will boost your self-confidence.
