Attitude is contagious- is yours worth catching?
The vacuous nature of negativity is its impulsive desire to be all-consuming. Worst yet, it is able to destroy relationships and undermine values, self-esteem and integrity. Why is it that some people would rather subscribe to such demeaning behavior and in turn constrict and intimidate others? Is it out of choice- a simple desire to spread caustic purpose? Or can it be written off to human fallibility- a weakness trait that is able to be corrected via a conscious assertion to “staying on the straight and narrow”? Nevertheless, living with and tolerating negativity can be as destructive as the behavior itself.
Cynicism and general melancholy is instigated by insecurity and a lack of self-esteem. Negative people often pay forward their gloom by ignoring regard for others and instead, focus of emotional manipulation. It can be frustrating, to say the least, recognizing that you’re in the company of a depressing energy threatening to sap you of your vigor. However, if you’re able to comprehend the warning signs and counter them efficiently you may avoid becoming a statistic:
1. Do you feel reactive rather than responsive to the person?
2. Does an encounter leave you feeling drained and defeated?
3. Do you make an active effort to avoid the person?
4. Do you feel compromised?
It is important to remember that negative people often deflect their unhappiness on others, just for the sake of imprudence. In saying as much, minimize interaction so as to maintain your equanimity. If the relationship threatens to turn gangrenous, rather consider what the benefits would be to you if such a parasitic association continues. Granted, it may be more difficult when it concerns a family member. As often is the case, we tend to endure through gritted teeth rather than face confrontation. If so, focus on assisting the person to recognize the source. Choose words of encouragement, rather than disdain. However, be cautious that such a strategy can also become overwhelming. Inevitably, you’re giving part of yourself, and the emotional strain may take its toll. So brace yourself and keep looking at the stars, rather than the trench you share with a glum world!
