‘If you really love someone…..than set him/her free, if they love you back…..they will return to you’
I repeat that to myself each and every time i have to separate from someone close to my heart.
If it is the case of a romantic relationship and the person does not come back….it was never meant to be.
These are the ways I try to ease any pain due to loosing somebody whom I care for enough to love.
If it is your teenager child (I have already started preparing myself for the future), you know they need to find their own paths and experiment and often, you do not agree with their decisions (it was the same when we were teenagers!) and we learned from our mistakes and achievements. Our children will be asking for the same thing. Didn’t we all want everyone off our back to do what we want to do?
I am scared to the idea of what they will be venturing into, but I have come to realise that if you try to stop someone from doing something, it will only make things worse, they will rebel and definitely do the opposite of what you are saying and it is then that you are risking they will do the wrong things.
I think in the case of our children growing up, if we could keep an open eye at a distance, making sure that whatever they are doing is within limits, then it is the better way to go.
When someone dies and you have to let go. That is hard because, you cannot do anything about it. And all those people talking about crossing over and people watching us, who knows, is it a way to deal with the pain? I only lost one person for whom my heart aches each time I think of, and tried to convince myself that he is better because in the last few years he was sick, but than again maybe someone could have found a cure and eased his pain?
It is hard to come to terms with something that does not give you any explanation.
Letting go, helps you grow stronger.
