Letting go of someone you love is just a matter of acceptance. You first have to take the time to evaluate the situation. Once this is don all that is left for you to do is let them go so they may be as happy as they long to be.
Loving someone is never easy. It takes a lot of work and sacrifice. So the complication in letting go is always the fact that you can not get back the time, blood, sweat and tears you put into the relationship. We are naturally loving by nature. I suppose that when a person finally loves they begin to love with all of their being. You give so much of yourself and when for whatever reason this relationship comes to a close we are stuck with the questions of how? and why?. You try to understand for the life of you why it is over and if it is all your fault when you should just try to be adult about it and just allow the curtain to drop gracefully on your show. I am not saying you are not allowed to feel but, you should be rational with your feelings so that all parties involved will be able to seek happiness after the messy break-up.
When you love someone the most important step in letting go is getting closure to the situation. You need to allow the other person a chance to speak their piece as well as yourself. This talk is important because you both can just put on the table what you both feel went wrong with your relationship. Just follow a few rules such as:
1.No profanity: You both are intelligent beings and God made words for us to be able to get what needs to be said across in a mature manner.
2.Be open minded: You should both go into this conversation with no ill feelings but, be ready to hear some things you may not like. If you just try to go inside your heart and look at things from each others perspective. You will be able to accept what went wrong.
3.Say what you feel calmly: Two individuals who choose to argue will never get anything accomplished if you yell. In most cases this is why a person is not heard. When you choose to yell,fuss and fight 9 times out of 10 the other person will shut down and not be willing to openly hear or value what you have to say.
4.Accept reality for what it is: You personally have to say that we have talked and i understand their reasoning and I accept it. Acceptance makes letting go easier. When we choose not to accept what has happened we make ourselves suffer. All the woulda, coulda, shouldas will not matter in the end. The fact still remains that it is over.
