The ideology of “letting go of someone you love” does not necessarily have to be about past or current relationships.
What about the letting go of people who have passed on?
My fiance recently lost his best friend of almost ten years. How do you really tell a 23 year old man that his best friend’s time was just “up”?
There is not set in concrete way of the best way to let someone go. No two people are the same. And the same goes for both broken relationships and people passing.
As a passer-by, you can offer sympathy and condolences and all the “you’re so much better off without him anyway” comments you like, but, even if you have lost someone yourself, previously, you dont really know what place your friends and family are in now.
I have had relationships in the past that I considered to be, well, perfect. And then something happened, and I though my entire life had been taken away from me. Sure, I may have been only 15 or 16, but it still hurts!
We always tried to remain friends. Seriously, I mean, COME ON! That NEVER really works.
It is just not possible for sexual relationships to end in friendship. There will ALWAYS be tension there, and you’re never going to be able to tell that person about the new guy you just met, or the hot chick you hooked up with last night at the club.
LET THEM GO.
Make it a clean break. Cease all contact with them.
And, well, if that isnt possible, try have as little contact as possible.
OK, now we have gotten over the relationship side of things, what about the passings on? How do you really let go of someone you love when you are faced with no choice?
Sure, you can go and see a medium, and give them all your hard earned money – and never really know if you are getting what you paid for…
Sure, you can sit around home all day depressed and not knowing whether or not yhour life has any meaning anymore…
You can mope, and become so distant and detached from everyday life that you lose everyone else that matters to you.
From my previous experience, the best way that you can possibly let someone go, is to do just that.
Let Them Go.
You will always love them, theres no doubt about it. But sometimes, you just have to get back on the wagon.
Honestly, I am not a greif consellor, I am not pretending to be. And as I said – everyone is different. Different things work for different people.
Some people NEED to mope and be depressed when a relationship falls apart or someone close to them dies. Some people act as if nothing at all has happened. Some people just need a hug.
Whatever it is that you are really looking for, honestly, thank you for taking the time to read my article, but you are not going to find what you need on the Internet. Get back out there to reality and start living again…
