Dealing with the death of anyone who is close to us, is a difficult fact of life. Because we have to understand grief, letting go, and looking towards the future, overcoming the death of a psychoanalyst makes coping a much more difficult challenge.
So, how do you deal with losing your psychoanalyst to death? How do you grieve, let go, and look towards the future without your therapist?
First: Understand the grieving process
During times of loss, you may feel intense sadness. You may spend weeks or months trying to deal with your loss. You may feel physically ill; your behavior may change; you may become emotionally sad; you may experience an inability to stop crying or of feeling happy; you may undergo shock, numbness, and so many other overwhelming sensations.
It’s normal to experience some of these feelings or all of these sensations. You’re not alone. Many people have lost a loved one and can help you through the process. Allow yourself to experience these grieving pains and immediately begin to seek the assistance of a new therapist.
You can find a new therapist in your hometown, ask friends or relatives for a referral, look online at find-a-therpist.com, or immediately obtain assistance by calling 1-800-843-7274. Please, check for toll-free numbers for therapist in your area.
Second: Letting go
This is very difficult to do: letting go. It doesn’t feel good; it’s not easy; and you may not be ready. Cry as much as you need to. Talk to friends, family, relatives. Write a letter to yourself and express exactly how you feel.
There are many trained therapist and counselors who are ready and willing to immediately assist you. You are already familiar with a therapists office, but it’s comforting to know you can say whatever you need to in the confidential confines of another therapist’s office.
There are grief groups and bereavement support organizations that are ready to listen and have you join their family of grieving individuals. You can find referrals for bereavement groups at your local hospital, county offices, in the yellow pages, online, and at nonprofit support centers. These groups allow individuals to share their experience while moving through the healing process.
Third: Look towards the future
But you may ask how? How do I look to the future when I am so sad and lost without my therapist? Getting through the death of your psychoanalyst will take a long time. But if you seek assistance immediately from another therapist, you can get through the healing process.
Please, understand there is no prescription or quick and easy method to get through grief. Slowly you will need to let go. Never forget your therapist. Recall all of your good memories and the useful tips your therapist helped you understand.
During this time, if you are having any trouble moving forward, letting go, and ridding those emotions that make you sad, depressed, or low seek immediate assistance from a grief support group, a counselor, or a therapist.
Summary
There is no one answer for everyone: The grieving process is difficult, but you can heal. You need to try to understand the grieving process, work on letting go, and look towards the future. However, you should not do this alone.
Please, seek the advice of a bereavement group and find a new therapist who can work with you and help you cope. More importantly, understand that you are not alone – there are many people trained to help you, to listen, and to assist you through the healing process.
