Is Silence Golden? Silence is Golden Everyone has heard the old saying Silence is Golden I’m sure. So what relevance does it have regarding relationships? Well the silence I am referring to is that silence that occurs after a fight,…
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Love can only carry you so far. There comes a point when you have to look at the larger picture and wonder what’s going to become of the situation. You have to dig within yourself and decide if it’s even…
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Do all women nag? Yes we do. It’s true. All women nag, but it might only be due to the need that derives from the men in our lives. After all, if you were a woman who had to live…
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Surviving an Affair Is it possible to salvage a relationship when your loved one has been untrue? Yes, anything is possible, however, this particular possibility is a very difficult one. First and foremost, you have been hurt, deeply hurt. No…
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How To Be The Best Father and Husband You Can Be I don’t pretend to be an expert on being a great husband or a great father. I have only been doing it all for two years and nine months….
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I think marriage is so hard because most people enter into marriage thinking that everything is going to be easy from then on. Most people, including me, get married because we did not want to spend the rest of our…
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This is always a difficult question because we all have individual thresholds for accepting pain and discomfort. However, many people put up with such unhappiness simply because of fear of the consequences of leaving and the sheer convenience of staying…
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There are many signs that lead to a marriage ending. A list of things that can tell you your marriage is over can start with the lack of communication. A confusing time of wonderment on how things went so wrong…
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When I was nine years old I won the junior scholarship prize at my boarding school. The prize entailed having my name inscribed on a small silver cup that was displayed amongst its much larger sporting brethren, within a glass…
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One of the hardest things to do is to evaluate one’s own relationship impartially. How can you be impartial when you’re right in the middle of it? It’s easy to sit back and evaluate other people’s relationships; we do it…
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SHOULD I STAY OR SHOULD I GO?…”IF I STAY IT COULD BE TOUBLE-IF I GO IT COULD BE DOUBLE.” Fear of the unknown paralyzes people. It’s as if we become just comforatble enough that we are willing to endure the…
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Over coffee, I told my best friend about the conversation I had had with my boyfriend the previous night. “If things haven’t changed by May,” I said, “I’m going to leave.” “Will you really do it?” she wondered, to which…
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Ending a relationship can be one of the most devastating of life’s experiences. Making the decision to stay or go is life changing. Although leaving a relationship can rock the foundations of anyone’s existence, staying in an unfulfilling one can…
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There are many factors that need to be taken into consideration when making such a drastic choice of either staying with your spouse or getting a divorce. Although it is very true that children need the mother and father figure,’…
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In my short life time I have become very familiar with marriage. Being the daughter of a Pastor was never easy growing up. when I turned 18 I thought “hey if I want to get married I’ve got to get…
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When a woman was considering her options regarding taking on a job outside her home and family, the doctor mentioned it would be better for her family to have a part time mother and wife, than a full time grouch….
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When I married 17 years ago, it was a very deliberate action, on my part. I was 30 years old, had been around the block as well as the world, and was not particularly looking for a mate. He was…
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We all deserve respect, love, caring concern and admiration. Very few of us demand that we be treated as such. Each of us has good and bad attributes and some of these are just a part of who we are….
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You sit down to your desk and cross your arms and you lay your head down. The thoughts that cross your mind are: We are fighting again, it is always about the money or the children or who did this…
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Married women are in a relationship that is a partnership; this partnership conceived the child together and should be responsible together for the care of that pregnancy. Many married women who have abortions have not let their husbands know what…
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As a married woman, it is fair to say that marriage is not an easy commitment. Sure, first you fall in love and everything seems absolutely wonderful and no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to find a…
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We have all found ourselves perched on the fence about one thing or another at some point in our lives. You know; the one where the grass is greener on the other side? It is uncomfortable being on that fence…
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Show me a man who comes home bursting to talk about his day, immediately adjusts annoying habits or even stops to ask for directions, and I’ll show you a woman who doesn’t nag. Are all women nags? No. Are all…
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I used to believe that marriage vows were never to be broken. If you promised “for better or for worse” you had better mean it. Afterall, my mother did, and her mother before her. But raising two daughters of my…
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When I met “Ryan” he was obviously a hit with the ladies and there was no shortage of women coming up to talk to him. I was shocked when he talked to me. Against my better judgment, I gave him…
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As a counselor, I often work with people who are unhappy in their relationship and thinking of leaving. They believe that they are unhappy because of their partner, but the real reason is that they are not taking responsibility for…
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Deciding to stay or go is a question that many people ask themselves when times get rough in a relationship. At the beginning it starts out magical. The two people are in love , and nothing else matters. A woman…
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How does one deal with a “cheating heart”. A “cheating heart” as it relates to relationship is one that is unfaithful to a lover or spouse. Whether this type of heart is in you or in your spouse, it can…
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Now, you may even be considering whether he/she is really “the one” after all. This is a very natural response. When there may be doubts it should be weighed out. So here is a way to do just that;Write down…
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We’re watching Dr. Phil right now. He’d doing a show on the El Dorado polygamist sect Yearning for Zion. Maybe it’s just me, but I absolutely loath these people. I loath the men for being so egotistical and shortsighted and…
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