Divorce is rough on all involved, but especially children, and especially if it’s not handled right.  Even when you do handle it right, children may still blame themselves for a divorce, thinking it’s their behavior, or sometimes their very existence…
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Even the best non-custodial parents sometimes are unable to make their visitation times.  There can be several reasons for this, ranging from illness to car trouble that are all valid reasons for them to be unable to make it.  There…
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Teenagers are curious creatures. One moment they’re all sweet and happy and the next moment they are ranting and raving about something or another. Add the impact of divorce to these turbulent years and it’s a certain recipe for trouble….
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You can go through major events in your life. The major events are those that change you, your current situation, or your life. The first thing that can affect and possibility change your life is marriage. Marriage is one of…
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The signs that a child is being alienated from their non custodial parent is sometimes only seen once the damage has been done.  As a mom who has joint custody I have always felt like my ex husband and his girlfriend…
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Every year thousands of people get divorced.  There were approximately 1,000,000 divorces in 2008.  Of these, approximately 50% involved children.  These children are often given to one parent with sole custody.  Those who’s parent’s have joint custody often times live…
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When it comes to the children in divorce, it always pulls at our heartstrings. The reality is, the children did not ask for this, they do not deserve it and it ALWAYS hurts them. Even in the happiest, most friendly…
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My belief is moot, for, I am only looking at this from the children’s point of view. My parents have been married for years, and were throughout the duration of my childhood, but it really didn’t make much of a…
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Communications with ex spouses are likely very uncomfortable for both parties. However, in order to set visitation dates and schedules it’s going to be necessary for communications with both parties. It’s going to take some patience and setting aside of…
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According to the court officials spoken to in the past there is no valid connection between child support arrangements and Parenting time visitation rights.  Rather the two are seen as separate issues and one cannot interfere with the other, as this…
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It has been said over and over again: Divorce is difficult on the kids.  It does not matter if the child is 5 or 15, he or she will be affected by the divorce. There are several common concerns which…
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In any marital relationship, the kids should always be the priority. However, what you may do whilst believing that you are helping your children may be the root of their turmoil. It’s amazing how children seem to have a sixth…
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When a spouse files for divorce, the news can be shocking and often overwhelming. Many times the other spouse’s first reaction when there are children involved is to beg their disinterested partner to stay with them “for the children’s sake.”…
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New York is among the states which provide, to greater or lesser degrees, for a lawyer to be assigned to minor children caught in the maelstrom of a parental custody dispute.  Children who would not otherwise have a “voice of…
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All children, regardless of age, need reassurance that the change a divorce usually causes will be smooth, short, and easy to recover from, despite the pain that accompanies such a life-upsetting decision. Pulling this off requires a balancing act of…
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Divorce is termed by some people as a necessary & permissible evil of society. Margaret Atwood said “a divorce is like an amputation: you survive it, but there’s less of you”. However she missed the part where there is “less…
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Divorce takes its toll on children of all ages. The child’s teacher sees many of the terrible consequences of a divorce on the family. Sometimes, it seems, the bitterness of the parents toward each other, eclipses the needs of the…
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When someone decides to divorce a spouse, sometimes it is the hardest decision to make. However, electing to stay in a marriage that has run its course for the sake of children can have dire consequences for everyone involved. This…
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Every year, approximately 1 million children experience the divorce of their parents. A divorce can be devastating to family, friends but especially the children involved. It is of utmost importance to be able to help them cope with such an…
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Divorce is a very stressful and traumatic time for children of all ages. Even if there has been turmoil and dysfunction in the family prior to the divorce. Children often blame themselves and feel guilty for what is happening. Both…
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Paying child support and being a good parent do not necessarily go hand-in-hand. You can’t force a man to be a father or a woman to be a mother. Not wanting to be a parent to a child does not,…
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Divorce is a phase consisting of heartbreak, pain, confusion and freedom for some. It’s an ongoing process that’s never-ending as one goes on to fight for the rights, be it for the material aspects or then children. Once the divorce…
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Sometimes when a marriage breaks down it can be very difficult to pinpoint the exact causes, and many people merely accept the fact that “things aren’t right” and decide to put an end to a marriage, that with a little…
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The divorce of one’s parents goes to the very core of our beings whether the divorce happens when we are very young or much older. Here are these two people that gave us life by combining their sperm and egg…
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Before even trying to reach a conclusion on this idea, let it be said loud and clear, that marriage counselors are not there to work miracles, nor to deliberately sabotage marriages. They have a delicate and supportive role in the…
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Though you exchanged vows, stating you’d be together “until death do us part” or similar words, you were not super-glued together at the ceremony. Instead, you came together as two complete individuals, who committed to building a life together. In…
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I teach sexuality, intimacy and love for a living in workshops, in private coaching sessions, online with my blog and podcast and at various trainings and events. And, I am a twice-divorced, dating Dad. Getting back into the dating world…
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Repeatedly tell the children their parents’ divorce is not their fault. If his or her behavior is aggressive or depressed, have a child psychiatrist or psychologist see them. The mental health doctor can encourage the child to talk honestly about…
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As hard as it can be to trudge through the tedious divorce process that separates us from who we once believed we loved, it can in many cases be a much more trying experience for those we know we still…
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Divorce is never an easy thing when children are involved. Parents in general have a hard time raising a child. When a child is torn between two homes, there are really only a few things that a parent can do…
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