Marriage and Divorce

When a marriage starts to crumble and a couple feel like there is no turning back, there are three main options available if the couple have decided to end the marriage. The best drama free solution is separation, which does…
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If you have recently gone through a divorce, or if you are going through a divorce, then you know how stressful it can be.  Divorces can tear families apart, and having children involved can make things especially difficult.  One of…
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It happened. You had some doubt, but now you caught your loved one red handed with undeniable proof. After the anger and despair subsides, you are left with no more tears to shed and that subtle realization that you feel…
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There are many things you can do to put your children first during a divorce, and it is important that you do.  A child will adjust better and have fewer complications as they grow up if you put aside your…
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Imagine that you see a couple fighting in front of their children.  The children are cowering and trying not to cry, and the parents don’t even seem to notice.  You are seething inside, wanting to confront these two people for…
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As long as one of the partners is coherent to the responsibilities of their marriage and has the desire to keep going, the marriage can be revived and put back on track. They won’t do it alone; they’ll need help…
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Pre-marital counselling is the first step towards the union of marriage that should not be overlooked but rather, should be enforced as the most important step. There are rules to marriage that binds and strengthens the relationship just like there…
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When parents choose divorce it causes stress, and discomfort in the household and sometimes in the whole family, but above all in the child. Although, there are certain steps a parent can take to help a child cope with the…
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The concept that marriage counselling can cause divorce almost seems like an oxymoron. People go to marriage counselling to save their marriage and yet some end up in divorce instead. How is that possible? There are many different kinds of…
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Partners do not get divorced because they are able to work together, treat each other with respect, keep emotions under control and create a loving environment. When couples choose to divorce they should learn to co-parent so they can quickly…
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It is first important to let the child know that the divorce is not because of them. Children have a tendency to blame themselves for what the parents go through. Developing a good and open communication with the child, no…
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It is said that most extramarital affairs occur when one partner no longer feels appreciated by their spouse. They no longer feel validated or that their efforts are noticed and praised any more. It is then that they begin to…
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There are those who believe that cheating satisfies the “itch” couples sometimes get after being married for any length of time. This is simply not true. Cheating does not save a marriage. On the contrary, it could destroy what there…
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Everyday across America people are getting divorced from people they were once happy with, and people they have had children with.  In far too many of those divorces, children are used as weapons against the other parent.  Although the stereotype…
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No, that’s not possible. And the fact that the concept of being unfaithful and breaking the marriage vows is a questionable point of debate based on forgiveness, is grounds for assumption that the marriage is already ended. What is a…
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When there is a divorce, especially a high conflict divorce, there is a tendency to be anger on all sides, including the children.  They may feel betrayed by the parent who is leaving.  They may feel anger toward the parent…
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Having been a marriage and personal counselor for two decades, and a person married to the same woman for over 30 years, I can say that there are several things that contribute to the success of the marriage counselor and…
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The best way to find out your husband’s secrets is to be a private eye. No license is needed. Just a bit of imagination. I have experience as of tonight. If a family member or friend has suspisions about their…
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Cheating and marriage cannot go hand in hand simply because cheating is the opposite of marriage; it does not complement it, rather it repels it. While marriage consists of love and promises between two people, cheating is deleterious to marriage…
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There are so many things, both big and small, that spouses do for each other every day that can go unnoticed. This lack of appreciation could be because those things are done every day without fail, such as preparing lunch…
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“Those who have the ability to be grateful are the ones who have the ability to achieve greatness.” Steve Maraboli The above quote from motivational speaker and behavioral scientist, Dr. Steve Maraboli, highlights, poignantly, the importance of appreciating others. When…
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No relationship can survive without talking. It is the one basic trait all relationships need to survive, thrive and become stronger. Communication is something that when done properly, can solve any problem before it even arises, and fixes the ones…
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I am in a ‘Momma’s Boy” relationship right now and I must say it proving to be a real challenge.  First let me say after reading many stories here and other places I do believe that many people (mainly men)…
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There is no single foolproof secret to making a marriage last. The secrets to a long marriage are many and can differ vastly from marriage to marriage. Some marriages survive with little effort or challenge but in most instances a…
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When you are young you have this vision of who you want to live our lives with. You search for the perfect partner who will make us happy for the rest of our days. You dream of romance and happiness as…
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A hectic pace of life is unkind when it comes to building long term relationships. Today’s family is a fractured union. Husbands, wives and their children seldom get together to enjoy company in an atmosphere of harmony. We all admire…
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This is a question that many women ask when faced with choices in their everyday life. She wants a new bottle of perfume, but the kids want shoes. Of course, the children get first priority, but not all choices are…
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Date nights for couples are vital to keep connections intact.  Set aside a set time, but keep open to flexibility and spontaneity.  Dates nights, if you have children, should NOT be viewed as an escape from the kids.  This matters,…
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Sexual liberation and sexual expression seem to be themes that you are seeing more frequently. With that in mind, are adults still harboring sexual secrets? Is sexuality and eroticism still considered to be taboo and if so, what are the…
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Love is not the only factor for a strong and healthy marriage. Other factors play important roles in a married couple’s happiness, and security is a huge factor. Women who marry men for their money are not necessarily gold-diggers. Rather,…
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