Marriage and Divorce

Marriage. It’s a huge commitment for two people to make. And so many people rush into it. This is not something that should be taken lightly, because with marriage comes huge responsibility. Your friends, your family, the entire life you…
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Even the friendliest divorces can go awry.  You can start out as “friends” and end up archenemies.  I know – I’ve been through two of them.  Divorce can be especially grievous when there are children in the mix.  Visitation, custody,…
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In midlife, people often come to regret the dishonest and less than humane things they did in their earlier life. For me, I came to regret the sane and sensible. For one, I dedicated myself to a life of service…
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The Core of Marriage Marriage, like any union or bloom of relationship, requires work and understanding. In essence, it is the meld of two separate entities into one, and in order to succeed this process needs both time and ultimately…
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If you seriously want to avoid divorce – remember how high the statistics are – listen to your spouse; don’t drift apart. It’s natural after sometime of marriage for couples to sometimes focus on other issues like children and career….
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Divorce is among the most potentially ugly events that can happen to a family. No marriage is ever initiated with a separation as the intended result, and whether or not there are children involved, a divorcing often has deep consequences…
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The only way to get over your ex is to be happy, and to keep busy. Both of these things take time and a lot of emotional energy to achieve, but what choice to you really have? When your life…
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If you have gone through a recent life changing event like the ending of a marriage, or a break up from a long term relationship, this in itself takes some adjusting to. Returning to the status of being single and…
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My opinion on this delicate matter is, when your children have reached adulthood, there is not much you can talk to them about concerning divorce issues, nine times out of ten, they have heard about it, or have experienced it…
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It was only after a divorce and 2 years or so of zig zagging between depression, anger, self doubt and self esteem rebuilding that I became a third party of a relationship gone bad. When I say third party I…
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Sanity after Divorce? Can anyone be sane after a divorce? Yes.Is there a good way and a better way? Yes. The “best” way is not to get into an ugly divorce, but to utilize a “sane” resolution process. (Collaborative Divorce,…
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Moving on to a new life can be very difficult when you still have not got over the hurt and problems caused by the old one. You may be confused, hurt, feeling angry and not knowing which way to turn….
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Rebuilding your life after divorce needs time, patience and determination, especially if your spouse wanted the divorce and you did not and you are still feeling hurt and confused about everything that has happened. You need time because there is…
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Oh dear. You think that you’ve done the right thing, or, conversely, the rug has been pulled out from under you, either scenario the truth is: your marriage is over, and you’re getting a divorce. During the initial days of…
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Coping with a divorce is a  very stressful and confusing time in your life. It is important to find strategies to cope with your emotions, finances, children and soon to be ex spouse. It may seem overwhelming as you first…
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“Living well is the best revenge.” Twenty years ago this seemed like a crazy philosophy but it made good instinctive sense. Even in the middle of an unwanted divorce where I felt betrayed and abandoned, this made sense. The judge…
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When I was young, I met a woman at a baby shower who had recently divorced a man who was dying of cancer. I thought, “How horrible! What kind of a terrible person divorces someone who is terminally ill?” I…
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Watching a friend go through a divorce can stress your friendship. Yes, you knew long ago this was inevitable. What you didn’t know was how this process would change them. You hear statements from your friend you just knew weren’t…
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I was five when it happened. I remember, as I stood at my grandpa’s front door watching my parents make it so vivid they were done. The tears raced out of my swollen, sore eyes and flushed cheeks, as I…
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I don’t believe that anyone can truly get divorced – especially when your ex lives near by. Of course, not everyone will find himself in the same unique position that I am. I live in a small community along Israel’s…
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Many people panic when they feel like there is not enough sex in their marriage. They automatically assume that there is something wrong. The thing couples need to remember is that some people have a high sex drive and some…
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When someone is deployed it is likely they are leaving loved ones behind. If they are involved with someone the deployment can put a strain on that relationship. It is important to work to keep that relationship healthy, especially during…
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There are many reasons why a wedding is called off.  Some of the reasons are unexplainable while some are easy to digest for why it is so.  For the unexplainable reasons, they are normally categorized as complicated issues or situations. …
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A family is much more than a spouse and children. In most every relationship there is some connections built among in-laws, especially if children are involved. In many cases a person builds attachments to the family of their spouse that…
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Many marriages fall into ruin because over time partners can take each other for granted. Even though the love may be there, the routine of life takes over and expressions of love move to the background. However for a marriage…
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Are you and your spouse about to go your separate ways? If so, you must do it smoothly, especially if you have kids. The main thing you must do is break the news in a way that is likely to…
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When parents decide to divorce they face the daunting task of knowing when and how much to tell young children about the huge changes that are about to happen to the whole family. In an ideal world, husband and wife…
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Divorce is hard on everyone involved, but most especially young children. Young children may often have a hard time understanding what is really going on. Suddenly their parents are not living together any more, and they may see much less…
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Blended and single-parent families are now so commonplace that it is easy to forget the confusion created in the minds of young children when they see adults parting after a long-term relationship, and the genuine trauma they experience when the…
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Divorce is like a forest fire burning through a family’s life. If it is not contained or controlled, a divorce can wreak havoc on their lives.  Thus, the period during and after a divorce presents an opportunity to stimulate a…
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