Marriage and Divorce

Cheating while in a marriage can mean a death knell.  There is a huge loss of trust, faith and belief in the cheating partner.  It usually takes Herculean efforts to restore the marriage, and even if successful huge emotional scars can…
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Marriage is a traditional joining of men and women; more recently with rights being given to same sex couples to marry and have the same joys and pains. While this is a step in the right direction marriage isn’t for…
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In my culture, having more than one wife was the right only preserved for the Tribal Chief before the ‘White Men’ arrived on the shores of my country. Now, with the introduction of cash economy, this privilege and concept has…
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When you’re in a relationship you’re making a commitment to be honest, loyal, faithful and respectful to your partner. Both you and your partner are taking the risk to put your heart on the line to conquer a sense of…
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For the past 7 years I have lived in a thriving polygyny-relationship with two wonderful and understanding women. In non-technical language, I have two wives. I do want to point out that not everyone is able to live in a…
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Individual women and feminists have not single-handedly rendered marriage unfashionable. Certainly, like men, and as human beings, women want love, sex, stability, companionship, and many other benefits promised by marital union. As far as I know, these were never the…
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There aren’t many people who marry with the intent to ever break their marriage vows by having an affair, but it does happen. In fact, if your marriage has been hit by this train wreck, you are far from alone….
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When your partner has been unfaithful to you, whether you decide to stay married or not, it can have lasting psychological effects.  It makes it difficult to ever trust your partner again.  It can even make it hard to ever…
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Marshall McLuhan spent his life preaching that the medium is the message.  McLuhan argued that the sheer existence of the light-bulb “allowed people to create spaces during nighttime that would otherwise be enveloped by darkness. The light bulb,” he continued,…
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The word soulmate is seriously overused and I think it has lost much of its impact because of how liberally it is sprinkled about. Listen to your average group of teengirls and they will eventually start talking about their boyfriend,…
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The unbelievable cruelty that infidelity brings to the injured person is incalculable. A normal well adjusted person, male or female, can become a psychological wreck. Every phone call your partner answers becomes a possible threat. Old friends who laugh at…
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Statistics say that marriages in general are doomed to fail. First marriages only have a 40% chance of surviving. Second marriages have a 20% chance of surviving. However, all marriages can work. It isn’t easy and often comes with a…
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Psychological damage unfaithfulness can cause. The psychological damage that can be caused from someone being unfaithful can be devastating. Although there are many different personalities or types of women, some of the effects are the same. One of the things…
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Do people who cheat really deserve a second chance?  Do you risk going through the same hurt again?  If I knew for sure that my husband or someone I was dating was unfaithful in the relationship it would be over…
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Sex in a marriage is both an obligation as well as an act of love. There is nothing about loving someone that comes easily. Love involves showing love when one does not necessarily feel the love. Love is about selfless…
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Two wrongs won’t make anyone right isn’t that a fair description of cheating. The parties involved in an affair outside marriage hurt the other partners whether they know or not. They hurt each other even though most seem to think stolen…
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Infidelity is, unfortunately, a common problem in relationships, whether a couple are married or not. Also common is somebody suspecting their partner of cheating, even if they have no physical proof. But, how can one be more certain of their…
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Being unfaithful, or “affair challenged” as one therapist has so aptly put it, is as grave a disease to the heart and mind as any physical disease is to the body.  Breaking promises and vows that should be held sacred…
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Men do seem to cheat more than women when it comes to relationships. Men seem to be less emotional and therefore less attached to the women that they are with. This means that they are able to have an affair…
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Infidelity is a devastating blow to any intimate relationship. Statistics show that 30 to 60 percent of married couples has an extramarital affair during the course of their marriages, with men being near the top of the percentage ladder. Infidelity…
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Having an affair is never just about one person and it can never just affect one person. Whether your spouse knows about your affair or not, their life is being affected by it. How unfair it would be to never…
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I have gone and done it, turned a corner and made a decision that can only be considered a life-changing event, a rite of passage: I deactivated my Facebook account. This is not as simple as you might think. There…
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Lust. Escape. Wishful thinking. Call it what you will, sexual fantasy is something all of us will experience and indulge in throughout our lives, and the idea that such a deeply personal, and often satisfying experience could be construed as…
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Forgiveness may help you put trust back in your spouse, but it does not make you forget.  I do not think a cheating spouse should be forgiven.  There are too many factors that come into play.  This is a person…
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What is considered morally right or morally wrong, that is what is considered ethics. There is a very fine line between what is ethical and what is unethical. In order to really decide whether it is okay to read our…
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Virtual relationships interfere with the continued development of real life relationships if they are not kept in perspective and thus potentially damage real life relationships. They take little effort to continue, but take time and energy away from a real…
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Virtual relationships sadly far outweigh real life relationships. With the advent of myspace and facebook came a new age of friendships. It is considered absolutely normal to have friends that you have never actually met face to face. Websites such…
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When contemplating whether or not to confess your affair to your spouse consider the consequences. Infidelity is often a double-edged sword. It causes damage from all sides and the decision to reveal it is personal. On one hand, if a…
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In a world dominated by Myspace, Facebook, Match.com, E-Harmony, and Hotornot, how can we not see that the world of dating is slowly evolving into a horse of another color? The virtual relationship is slowly swallowing and ingesting the reality…
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Years ago I became friends with a woman that I met at my workplace. We were close friends but not best friends. She was seven years older and we both were in our twenties. She had a great sense of…
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