Friends and Peers

There are people for whom socializing seems to be a second nature. They always find subjects to talk about and they are just as relaxed with the bank director and the cleaning lady. For them socializing seems to be a…
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The scratchy, annoying feel of my heavy Air Force battle dress uniform could not contend with the feeling of discomfort coming from the searing stare of a 67 year old woman from across the room. As a former Air Force…
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How to get along with people you dislike? In my many years of working, I’ve found out some people can be cruel and hurtful regardless of how great I’ve treated them. Many people who have strong and controlling personalities in…
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My first reaction to this topic is laughter. I am surrounded by neighbours with the nosey syndrome. How do I handle a nosey neighbour? There are several ways. Confront him or her When you spot your neighbour looking over your…
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At some stage of our daily lives we come across rude people. Whether they are people you work or live with, sales assistants you are to purchase from or are in a Customer Service based industry, they exist everywhere. At…
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Rude People. It is difficult to deal with rude people particularly if you are kind and have a nice heart. There is no particular method for dealing with rude people because those rude people are of different kinds and need…
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I whole heartedly say staying in touch with past lovers is the only way to go. You have a past together, and many co-friends to deal with. Are you trying to say breaking up with a lover means never talking…
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The doctrine of “love thy enemy” is a hard moral principle to obey, especially when one interprets the word “love” to mean warm fuzzy feelings and good will. Emotions are by definition irrational, visceral responses no more a part of…
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This is a very tricky and delicate situation. Again, it becomes necessary to take issue with helium’s choice of wording on a question. I would probably re-word the question as: “Is it okay for ex-lovers to be friends?” I’m under…
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I am in a 12 step program. After 3 failed marriages and being in the program for 14 1/2 years, I have learned that the key to good relationships with other people is to love myself first. I am sure…
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As my mother-in-law hands me a shirt nearly three sizes too big for me, she informs me “I thought maybe you could use this shirt as it was too big for me. I thought it would fit you because you…
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The best way to avoid roommate conflict on any issues it to get things sorted out even before the person has a chance to move in. It will save a lot of trouble if you make sure that your new roommate…
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If you wrestle with a pig you will stink! There’s no getting around this concept. If you allow yourself to go someone’s level you will only bring yourself down. Now I don’t think we are always going to keep our…
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Almost everyone has an ex. There were reasons that you and your ex got together. Attraction, lust, interest, or a sharing of the minds. Something put you two together. Chances are, even though things did not work out, that attraction…
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We all must admit it, at one time or another we’ve come across someone that we simply don’t see eye to eye with or cannot tolerate for whatever reason. With over 6 billion people inhabiting the Earth, all with unique…
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There will always be situations were you have to deal with people some of whom you will like and some that you will not. Getting along with people you like is sometimes difficult. So having to get along with people…
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As members of the human race, we are all different. Those differences are what make life so much more interesting – it would be a sad and boring existence if everybody looked the same, thought the same, behaved the same,…
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Should ex lovers be friends? What differentiates the couples who remain friends from those who don’t? When children are involved, they must co-parent friendly … but can divorced parents really be friends? Should a new relationship tolerate an ex when…
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There are always times when we wish life was better, when we could sit at home by ourselves and enjoy that glorious thing called silence. Unfortunately in these economic times we are usually incapable of this. Thus being if were…
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Ex-lovers should NOT stay friends, it will never work. Trust me when I tell you, I speak from experience. There was a time in my life that I believed ex-lovers should be friends, because they where adults whom where more…
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Do you respond to certain situations in a manner that is not appropriate because we are not seeing the clear picture due to our own lack of self esteem, lack of self respect, and in turn we are unable to…
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How Rude! The lady cut in front of you at the express lane without asking and she has more than 20 items! Apparently, she is in a hurry. That guy cut you off in traffic, guess he didn’t see you….
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Rude people are a fact of life and dealing with them is often tricky. No one knows for sure what causes a person to be rude but it is possible to avoid being rude right back. The first instinct is…
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Being rude is a classic display of a lack of class. As such, being nice in return is basically a waste of time. Rude people do not respect nice people, but will respect the mirror image of what they project….
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“I guess I lost a little bit of self-esteem That time that you made it with the whole hockey team You used to think I was nice Now you tell all your friends that Im the antichrist” – Excerpted from…
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Being friends with an ex-lover depends on the people and relationships involved. The yes or no of the question, can only be answered case by case. Some ex-lovers can’t and shouldn’t be friends, while others are capable of becoming the…
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Too often we find ourselves in relationships that we have no idea how they developed into a energy absorbing mass of destruction. Most of us become nurturers by habit and when that happens, what happens next inevitable. We want to…
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Rudeness whether offensive in manner or action, is not ordinarily expected nor predictable with the abundant forms of situations and experiences to which it rears its disrespectful appearance. No matter where you reside you will observe the increasing population of…
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“Do unto others as you would have others do unto you” is a great mantra to keep in your brain. Unfortunately, even if you follow this wisdom, you will invariably encounter people who just irritate you. The trick is not…
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You just walked into a party, there are twenty or so standing around a glass in hand maybe in small groups. What to do? Look for a looker. No not someone that is especially good looking but someone that is…
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