When you love someone so much it hurts, it is a dangerous thing. It is wrong because you allow so many terrible things to happen to you that you wouldn’t normally put up with. Why do you allow yourself to…
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How Do You Move On After The Death Of A Loved One How do you mend a broken heart when one of the pieces is missing? How can you put something back together again when it’s not all there anymore?…
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Moving on after sexual abuse is an impossibility. The torn emotional structure within the person that suffered the abuse will remain with them always.That being said, there is a way to live with the emotional shreds left behind.I have suffered…
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There is a lot of debate concerning the issue of repressed memories. No one wants to believe that this sort of abuse happened. Much less that it was held into the back of the mind for all of those years….
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Many people will say that the right time to leave an abusive relationship is at the first sign of abuse. The reality is that it isn’t that easy. It is easier to sit on the outside and tell someone to…
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A couple of years ago, we lost both our twenty-year-old handicapped son and my mother within three months. The loss was compounded by the fact that not only did both live with us, but that our son died suddenly at…
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I wouldn’t use the word ‘tolerate’ when describing women who are abused by men. It is not a case of ‘tolerating’ the abuse, it is a feeling that you ‘deserve’ it. You fear being alone, you fear you won’t cope….
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Sexual abuse is a horrible crime that plagues our country. It is one of the hardest things to put behind you in life. When your are a victim of sexual abuse you tend to find yourself pushing back all your…
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Abuse and self esteem. It’s not unusual to see the two coupled in a sentence. However, the self esteem abuse is coupled with is often non – existent, low or negative. Abuse affects self esteem in a phenomenal manner. The…
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Thoughts of suicide is something that manifests itself into someone’s mind. These thoughts should be taken seriously, due to the fact that they can lead to fatal consequences. Suicide can be a person’s solution to his/hers already messed up life….
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Women tolerate abuse from their men mainly because of low self-esteem. They may not have low self-esteem when they first get together with their man: however, many abusive men are expert manipulators, and know how to gain control of people…
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I don’t know that “tolerate” is the best word to use in this situation. It certainly isn’t a word that came to mind when I was in similar relationships. First to understand is that any man who abuses, be it…
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My beloved mum died four years ago. I often ask before I go to sleep for her to meet me in my dreams. I have an image of a bench in a beautiful garden with unusual flowers of colours so…
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As summer draws to a close you are happy to have all your children’s school supplies and new clothes ready, but have you done all you can to prepare them for everything they face at school? Now, on the heels…
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Most of us are no stranger to grief. The grief you feel when a relationship breaks up, a marriage ends, a job is lost or death of a family. friends or an animal companion. Losing someone dear to one or having…
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Women and Abusive Relationships: Escaping the Cycle of Abuse It happens everyday. A woman is abused…physically, emotionally, verbally, mentally. Physical abuse happens all too often to entirely too many women. But she’s not hit by some random stranger. She’s hit…
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Understanding constant pain and the resultant thoughts of suicide within those who are subjected to a pain filled existence every hour of the waking day, and often during the night as well, is a condition and frame of mind that…
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Overcoming shame, a violation of trust and feelings of betrayal are a few of the many challenges that survivors of sexual abuse inevitably deal with over their lifetime. There is no easy way to move on. It is day by…
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Survivors of child sexual abuse and their families often seek professional help to deal with the shock and trauma of the abuse and to educate themselves about the myths and realities of child sexual abuse. Part of the trauma for…
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I was 19 when I discovered I was pregnant. I was young, single and a penniless student. Pregnancy was not what I wanted, not at that stage of my life. The father was a friend. I had slept with him…
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Returning to work after the death of a child is in a way one of the first acceptances you have that life goes on, difficult? oh my god! How do you even begin to cope with what is now mundane,…
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Dealing with death is not easy, because we not only have to deal with the death of our loved ones, but also something else becomes a real issue, our own mortality. We have to face the fact that all of…
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I thought I understood depression. I thought I understood the pain. My mistake was not REALIZING how agonizing, how deep, how crippling, how deadly this pain is until it was too late for my son. There was a knock on…
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The death of a loved one is difficult to handle and every year on the day that they died, many people become very depressed. There are certain things that can trigger negative, depressed emotions and there are things that can…
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The sudden loss of a loved one while tragic does not mean that you can’t say goodbye. Perhaps you may have lost the chance at a dramatic reconciliation or reunion. Or you may lose the chance to be forgiven but…
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Grief after losing a loved one is very hard to deal with. My definition of grief is the toxic combination of anger, confusion, sadness, pain, guilt, regret, shock, numbness, abandonment and almost every emotion a person can feel wrapped into…
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On March 28, 1994, I, 15 years old at the time, awoke to discover my mother in her bedroom lying dead from a gunshot wound. The more horrible aspect of this discovery was that my two younger siblings were also…
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The title for this article is missing the word do. How DO you deal with death? You DON’T! I can still hear your laughter. I can still see every detail of your face. if your voice were to call out…
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Tips for Grief Counsellors and Social Workers. Initial assessment of individuals: This is a tentative process, which usually relies on assumptions made from client referral information, client’s life stage, worker’s own personal life experiences and literature research and a holistic…
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The idea of retaining dignity while grieving, of keeping up appearances and not losing your composure, is to repress the very emotions that grieving helps to ease. Grief is a necessary part of dealing with loss, though every person expresses…
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