Princess Diana’s mission was to end the menace of land mines, Bono’s pet project is to end world hunger, and we know Lance Armstrong rides to “Live Strong” and end cancer. My mission is to end poor speakers who get…
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Praise for a job well-done, or thanks for a gift or help with child-care. Both of these deserve a show of appreciation, and are essentially different types of help, to be acknowledged in slightly different ways. Generally, in the work…
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When a couple has a disagreement or even an argument is there ever a real winner? I wondered this because I know that when my husband and I argue we both are angry, hurt, and neither of us really listen…
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What is good communication? Can it be learnt from abiding by certain principles, or must it be rather caught by us, when we move along our spiritual journey and life path enough that we grow more aware? With this added…
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To me the word ‘meddling’ conjures up memories of my former in-laws, and the times I bit my tongue so hard I nearly bit it off – for the sake of my ex-husband. Now, in hindsight, I wish I’d just…
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No one likes to be nagged or goaded into action by their partner. But when one of the team of two is not listening or observing you may feel out of options. Unless you are fans of the Fridays Night…
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Why do men have to beat on women? That is the question that alot of women wish could be answered. I have been a single mom for over 6 years. I consider myself to be very independent. The moment that…
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First, be very clear in your mind what you are complaining about. For example, if you have bought a clearance item from a range with clear labelling that the goods may not be perfect, it is is unlikely that you…
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Answering the unanswerable question How far is infinity and how long does forever last seems to be just one of many questions that have no answer.What if humans were to move through the stages of an evolutionary process that brought…
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NO is not a four-letter word. If we do not learn to use it, we will be eternally controlled by others. When a toddler says no, parents should cheer. S/he is asserting the idea that s/he is a separate person,…
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Communication is the art of understanding personal filters. We all come from the view through our own rose colored glasses. Our understanding is a direct consequence of our experience. let me give you a sample: Mary grew up in the…
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Communication is the biggest part of having a relationship. If you don’t communicate then there will be no relationship. So do we call it skill? Or is it something that is more like a learning curve? There is no such…
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Conquering Communication Complications Communication is a strong and natural characteristic of life. There are many different forms and styles of communication. The real challenge for almost anyone is how to communicate effectively in all aspects of life. The reasons that…
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It is not only all right, but also necessary to show our kids love and affection. At all ages in our children’s lives, affection can comfort and reassure. I believe even as adults we still need this from our parents…
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Giving and receiving criticism is actually quite easy. Giving criticism is just saying what you think, while the receiving criticism is keeping quite while being chewed out. Giving and receiving criticism is easy, so you would think… To start off,…
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Vacation time is near and both my wife Tala and I considered the beach resorts along the Florida coast, one that would be an isle of tranquility; a holiday site that would radiate an atmosphere of peace and quiet. We…
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Meddling takes place when you get into someone else’s business. According to www.dictionary.com, to meddle is “to involve oneself in a matter without right or invitation.” Key here is that you are getting involved without really being asked to do…
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When two or more individuals engage in conflict, there is often a pattern to the exchange. Those involved may feel that it is war where only one can be victorious; however, proper analysis of the situation might give the individuals…
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Interference that is meddling and nothing else. However much we think we are doing it for the best, meddling is getting to know peoples business and doing something about it. The end results are determined by what the involved parties…
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When you introduce yourself to someone you are making a first impression. So is your handshake. Your handshake has just determined who you are to your new boss, neighbor, or future father-in-law. What does your handshake say about you? Are…
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HOOKED ON JERKS Some people (often the helpful female type who would consider assertiveness training an act of gross selfishness) have a peculiar attraction to emotional basket-cases who are looking for somebody to carry their basket. The Happy Helpers mistake…
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Why can’t women apply mascara without opening their mouth… Well I’ll tell you. For most of my life I felt that answering this question was like trying to program my VCR, it just isn’t possible, but recently i have discovered…
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Effective feedback is timely, specific and sincere. First, think about your audience. Your feedback should be framed by an effective communication style. Tailor your style to meet your audience’s needs (e.g. delivery, pitch, language style, etc.) Regardless of your audience…
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Well Duh?! Listen Up People I think I was in the first grade when I was first introduced to the sage wisdom of “Stop, Look and Listen” as spoken by a local police officer who had obviously drawn the small…
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There are different types of argument which are important for understanding the strength of reasoning in debates. It’s easy to slip into arguments which appear strong, only to realise they have absolutely no value at all. Logical arguments follow a…
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I have studied Martin Luther King’s I have a Dream Speech. I have listened to FDR’s Fireside Chats, Winston Churchill’s nightly radio talks to the UK during the London Blitz, and I have read the Gettysburg Address. Colin Powell’s interview…
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THE COMMUNICATIONS TRIANGLE It’s not enough to be a good speaker or a good listener. There are three aspects, not two, to effective person-to-person communication: 1. speaking and sharing 2. listening 3. absorbing, consolidating, processing, before speaking again The best…
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Have you ever wanted to get your point across to someone? Ever wanted to successfully communicate your feelings, emotions, and desires efficiently? Ever wonder why you say one thing and they think you meant another? Welcome to the world of…
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A few years back I felt my personal schedule was about to explode with wearing activities. I became overwhelmed with unappreciated favors; irrelevant meetings; unrewarding friendships and business ventures that gave little or no return. I increasingly found myself in…
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I like to sit back and sometimes watch people and how they communicate their ideas and emotions to others. Some are very effective in their communications, and others not so much. At first observation one could come to the conclusion…
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