Communication

Men and women communicate very differently. We have different goals, purposes and desired outcomes in our communication. The first step toward successful communication in any male/female relationship is to become aware of these differences and understand the gender based nature…
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Every couple is going to have disagreements from time to time. Learning how to keep these disagreements from turning into fights is an important key to a healthy relationship. To state the obvious, communication is the only way to avoid…
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For couples, avoiding fights is almost impossible. In some relationships, it may not even be desirable. Some people live for the rush they get from a good fight. As long as it can stay away from too much of a…
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“I love you”. It’s is something that my husband says to me quite often. You see, looking back on my childhood, I can honestly say that I can’t remember hearing my father tell me that he loved me, not ever….
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You will know when your spouse is cheating. You don’t need a detective. Listen to your feelings. Women and men have affairs because their needs are not being met and they have lost hope in their relationship. Simply blaming the…
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Well, it’s happened. You had another fight. Neither of you meant for it to erupt, but it did anyway. Now, you have retreated away from each other with doubt and uncertainty about the next step. You want to move on…
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He is bossy and demanding.He interrupts others.He finishes everyone else’s sentences.He micro-manages the lives of those around him.He is picky and impatient.He may secretive about his own life, but he demands details from others.He keeps a tight rein on shared…
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All relationships have conflict. It is the norm. Admittedly, many of us do wish to live a conflict-free existence, but this sort of thinking is unrealistic. It often leads to disappointment and frustration. In fact, one could surely admit a…
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It seems a little sad that the society has become so complacent that people are not truly certain if their spouse is being emotionally abusive or not. It is reminiscent of a patient in the hospital. She was in the…
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Many of us know the situation. We give our perspective partners one of those infamous (and hated) “honey-do” lists. We think that we’ve delegated the simplest and easiest tasks to accomplish to our partners and yet, days later nothing has…
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Is your spouse being emotionally abusive to you? Do you find yourself thinking twice or even three or four times before you say or do something? Do you avoid meeting up with your friends and family? Do you feel more…
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The Presidential election is November 4, 2008. It seems like 2004 just passed when I volunteered at the local election polls, counting the insufferable dogs allowed into the polling place, and surviving the eleven hour shift with two breaks and…
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While I believe that in any good, healthy spousal relationship, each should be a complete open book to the other, this particular question about revealing sexual abuse as a child presents unique dilemmas, and potential pitfalls. It walks a razor’s…
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It will come as a bit of a shock to find that your partner may be having an affair. Stay calm and don’t overreact about things. You may be mistaken so look at things really objectively. It may just save…
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I grew up in the Midwest like millions of others from my generation. Before I met my husband, I had very much agreed with my conservative, pro-life, Republican parent’s stance on politics. I had no reason not to: political issues…
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The way to rebuild a troubled relationship is to recognize why it was troubled in the first place. Most problems in a relationship stem from one or both partners trying to control the other, or one or both have low…
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At my age today, I’ve arrived at the time of life when I see the reality that my political views have a lot to do with my social and moral values. What I think and believe politically, has a lot…
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I think you will never know anyone well enough unless you have had the chance to spend a good amount of time with them. Knowing your partner well enough means that you will properly know, or anticipate what is going…
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How can couples avoid fights? Let’s face the facts. This is not an easy thing to do. Now, avoiding a fruitless fight, can be accomplished. “How’s that?” You are probably wondering. Well, first of all, you need to accept that…
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If only procrastinators came with instructions, it would make life so much easier. Contrary to popular belief, procrastination is not a matter of time management. Quite often, the procrastinator is well aware what he or she is delaying a task…
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I have a confession to make. I was raised by Republicans. When I became a young adult, I found myself straddling the fence in terms of my political affiliations. My mother drove me to the polls the first time I…
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Dealing with a controlling partner can be a great challenge. When one partner works to inflict his or her will into every situation, conflict is inevitable. As long as violence isn’t a factor, there is hope to be able to…
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Communication is the most important part of any relationship. I know I know… so you have heard this before, right? This article will just reiterate all of the things that I have said in the past about communication in relationships…
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I am a registered Democrat who reluctantly was briefly seduced and swayed by my Republican boyfriend. I was ashamed to admit to fellow Democrats that I voted Republican but not so much now. The initial shock has worn off, I…
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Efforts to really know your partner continue throughout your lifetime. People do not change, but they do mature in their tastes, preferences, attitudes and feelings. What keeps a relationship alive and interesting is your desire to know your partner completely,…
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Arguments are a part of relationships. There is no way of avoiding them. It is impossible to see eye to eye on every topic and discussion, and a difference of opinion can lead to a debate, and possibly and argument….
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At 20 years old I never wanted for anything, that’s just the way it was where I grew up. In upper-middle class suburban New York I enjoyed all that life had to offer. I grew up in a place where…
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You know it’s important to tell your lover every day that you love him/her, but just how do you do it without sounding robotic in your relationship? More important than just saying ‘I love you’ is to have fun with…
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Judging others is akin to believing you are better than someone else. A judgmental comment may be used to deflate someone’s confidence or make them feel very uncomfortable. Their are people who convince themselves their comment is constructive criticism. and…
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It used to be common practice for families to sit around the dinner table together, eating, chatting and having some quality time together. Sadly it is not so common now. This is a shame as families who have people going…
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