I just wrote in here a little while ago, but since I slept so late today I’m not really sleepy. So of course, I lay in bed and stare at the ceiling, while a million thoughts plague me. Here’s one…
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We are all born shy, aren’t we? When we see little children clinging to their parents, hiding behind Mom or Dad, we are reminded about the shyness of first coming into this World. As this early stage of our life…
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This is an important question and one to which there are several routes to the answer. One reason might fit one person and another may suit their friend. I shall look at some of the answers that have a specific…
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There really is a way to tell if someone is lying to you. Less than twenty percent of what we convey in communication is actually done with words. The rest is purveyed in expression, tone and body language. First of…
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Control is both illusion and reality. The more interesting thing to examine is its repercussions. Because the question is really whether to try and control or not, isn’t it? The most damning negative commentary with respect to others might just…
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It is true that people who put others needs first can often be labeled as “passive”, or a “doormat”; these people, in turn, have a tendency to get hurt as reward for all their selfless consideration. Consider, however, the following:…
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Are you afraid of expressing yourself? Are you afraid a loved one will look down on you or strife will grow out of expression? These are common questions in every relationship. Nervousness and tension are common, so are arguments. But…
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Blooming, Flourishing, Comedic:Thalia, the Misanthropic Muse For two days my son was home sick from school. Pale as a ghost, complaining in a strained voice of a stomachache and beavers gnawing at his door, he lay on the sofa, helpless,…
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How to Resolve a family’s disagreement I truly believe that communication is the backbone of any relationship. Most family rifts are merely a lack of communication and empathy. Decide on a mediator. Select someone that is the most level headed,…
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Greed, and self centered thought In simplicity, our hearts yearn to be heard and understood. the deep emotions in all of us, the part where we are the most lacking in practice and knowledge. With our determined mind’s, we push…
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You’re looking beautiful’; You’re looking handsome’; You’re looking pretty’; You’re looking dashing’; You’re looking amazing’. These are some of the phrases you hear when someone is looking, to put in one word, good. And the common mind set that is…
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We should refer to others as we would have them refer to us, “The Golden Rule” always applies. Even the most inarticulate individual generally knows how to be polite. Address and refer to your elders with utmost respect. The manner…
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How Active Listening Enhances Communication Skills Have you ever had the good fortune of being in a conversation with someone who truly listened to you? This may seem like a ridiculous question, since most of us engage in daily conversations…
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It is crucial that you learn to find comfort when talking to strangers on a daily basis. There are a lot of advantages that come with being able to do so with ease. First off people that are very successful…
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When you are having a discussion, you will be actively speaking. You must also be listening. Many times, people have what they want to say in their mind. They cannot hear what the other person is saying. This confuses the…
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Take a moment and think about the strangers you talk to everyday. Telephone operators are strangers. So are bank tellers. So are policemen. People who wait on you in restaurants, ticket takers, cashiers, repairmen, nurses, mailmen, etc. It is necessary…
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“The Key To Effective Communication” in my opinion is Openness,Honesty and a Loving Heart. If you have all these tools to use, you will certainly be able to communicate. I personally have found in my life that if I keep…
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For whatever reason many strangers feel very comfortable talking to me. Whether it be in a line at the bank, maybe it is when we are both waiting for a table at a local restaurant, it happened once while purchasing…
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It is not uncommon to find shy children in the society. However, the difference between a shy person and an outgoing/bold person is very minute. In other words, it is quite easy to change from being shy to being bold,…
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Often we think we are being positive in our words and behavior; all the while, subtle but insidious, phrases come tumbling out of our mouths into our conversation, or involuntarily run rampant through our thoughts. Certain negative words and phrases…
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Complaining is easy! We all have things to complain about and they range from pet peeves all the way up to severe mistreatment. No matter what your complaints are, though, there are effective ways to convey them that can bring…
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Defusing a tense discussion can be done! With a little bit of know how and a lot of guts and humor any difficult situation can be resolved with humorous diplomacy. The trick is how to implement both of these techniques…
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As we go about our daily lives, which are often very busy, we tend to encounter countless strangers. And, these encounters often involve both nonverbal and verbal communications. One way of being mindful of how you treat others it to…
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What’s so important about staying positive? Having a positive vocabulary encourages a good outlook on life, a good attitude, and overall, a better life. Living a good life by staying positive also encourages people around you. Your upbeat attitude will…
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The languages of the human family are rich and bursting with words that inspire and thrill us, bring delight, and motivate us to action. As in any aspect of life, there is a dark side to language. Words that bring…
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Being assertive is good for marriage – let me tell you why. Being assertive is a good for marriage because it lets our spouse know how we are feeling and that means productive communication. Anytime we express ourselves to our…
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Dear Dr. Ursa, Today is my 65th birthday. After 60 years of looking after other people, bailing out other people, and cleaning up after other people, I am tired. My doctor says that if I don’t learn to delegate, I…
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I can truthfully say, “I’ve never met a stranger in my life.” They may be someone I’ve never met before but it doesn’t take me long to smile and allow them to see that I’m interested in having a conversation…
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Talking to strangers as a part of everyday life When someone is running errands, talking to people they don’t know makes the time pass more quickly. It doesn’t matter if people know each other when they are commiserating about long…
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The first way to keep someone next to you is to be the kind of person someone WANTS to be next to. The second thing to do is choose to be emotionally closest to people who like to be close…
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