Communication

How to recover from a toxic relationship. There’s only one way to recover from a toxic relationship and that is to run. Run like the wind. Run as fast as fast as you can. Put as much distance as you…
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As I sit writing this article, my husband’s family is gathering for the funeral of his aunt, she died last weekend. Upon receiving the notification via his sister, since he has not spoken to his mother since January, the dilemma…
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What not to do in an argument Everyone ever born will one day experience disagreements and arguments with their mates, friends, family and co-workers. Everyone is individuals with their individual beliefs and opinions, which are destined to clash with others….
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Conflict is a natural part of any close relationship, at least in one in which both parties are comfortable expressing their opinions and desires. But not all relationships are highly volatile as a result. And the reason is that some…
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Stand still, grit your teeth and hold your ground. Manipulation is learned behavior that has been rewarded with short term, self-satisfying results. The term itself carries a negative connotation, and it is a destructive force in healthy relationships. If one…
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The only good thing about being a victim of a manipulative personality is that you become aware of it. It may not manifest early on in your mind that something sinister is playing on your weaknesses. Your first reaction is…
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We’ve all done it before. But some people do it far more than others. Sometimes we tell lies because we are ashamed of the truth. Or we are fearful of being exposed. Or we have something to hide. Those who…
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Believing in the power of affirmative action. Becoming actively involved in the causes, and issues you think is right is by far the most effective method. Grass roots political action through local political parties, neighborhood associations, religious organizations, or affirmative…
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Being judgmental and making comments is easy to do since it’s an instinct in all of us to form an opinion of how others live their life. However, we should never judge anyone or make judgmental comments based on how…
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Unfortunately, it is a simple fact of life that there may be occasions when a partner will tell a lie (even if only a little white lie). The reasons may vary, ranging from protecting the other partner, to fear of being rejected, to yet another fear of being caught…
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There is a well known phenomena that some people see music and words in color.  Different sounds and combinations of sound produce tones, shades and tints in their mind. At the same time some people even see words written. This…
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There is an old joke about the difference between an expert and a generalist. An expert knows more and more about less and less until he knows absolutely everything about nothing. A generalist knows less and less about more and…
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The difficulty with communication in the world today seems largely a matter of how to maintain our privacy when so much of our interaction is open to the public. Technology has caused our most private moments to often be conducted…
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Unless you are in the job of politics or possibly the news, politics doesn’t make for good conversation around the water cooler. Political topics, while fun to debate, can lead to hot tempers and long term relational difficulty. In other…
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My church youth group was looking for a ministry project.  That is to say, the four of us wanted our little group to be more meaningful. All we ever did was get together once a week for a pity party…
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Any relationship that one might enter, especially a romantic one, is bound to coincide with the occasional argument. In some cases, one may encounter arguments on a frequent basis. A few things are important to consider here but the bottom…
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Boundaries are an important part of interpersonal relationships. We set boundaries in relationships to establish what behaviors we find acceptable and unacceptable in other people. Each relationship we encounter with family, lovers, and friends will have a different set of…
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George Carlin was famous for the seven words you can’t say on television. However, he made a lot of money writing about those seven words and trying to say them in lots of places. You can talk about anything you…
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Some people feel extremely nervous when they are with other people, sometimes to such an extent, that they actually try to avoid spending much time with them. Since there are ways to overcome your nervousness when you are with other…
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It is no secret, everyone argues at some point of time in their life. Some argue more than others do. There are some things not to do that you should remember next time you decide to argue with someone. 1….
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Whenever a new literacy develops, whether it is the novel, the television script, or the blog, questions are always raised whether the new type of language use will lead to the demise of previous types of literacy. However, literacies do…
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“There is a time to be silent and a time to speak.” (Ecclesiastes 3-1.8) Great wisdom stems from knowing when to and when not to. Great love shares the best of both moments. We can all remember a time where…
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There are only three kinds of lies.  Everything else is a combination of two or all of them. How to tell if someone is lying to you is like a Trifecta bet at the horse races.  While there are many…
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When communicating with someone in a coma, an assumption is first made that some part of the person (consciousness, soul or life energy) exists and is capable of understanding.  With this accepted, it is important to understand that being in a…
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There are no sure-fire ways to tell if someone is lying to you. But there are some signals to watch for that are common to most liars. Swallowing hard. If it’s a man who is speaking to you and it…
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Have you ever sat there in your bedroom or living room and pondered the age old questions, “Is the truth really pure but simple?” “is there such a thing as love at first sight?” And “What is the meaning of…
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Often when driving in city traffic, I find myself asking the rhetorical question, “Is it more important to have the right of way or to stay alive?”  When launching into an argument, it is helpful to ask a similar question….
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In a relationship, it is crucial to show not only compassion, but anger, happiness, fear, and every other emotion. Many people think that texting can help them stay connected when they are separated. While this may have some validity, there…
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Our own bodies will soon age, but our minds will retain wisdom to share with others. We all will face the inevitable saddening experience when our bodies will weaken and we will become as fragile as we were when we were…
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Hold on now? I am 59 years old here, and aged to perfection I might add. However, should not I know myself by now? Okay, granted, before now I have always let my emotions and my lack of self-confidence direct…
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