Assessing Bondage
If one is practicing bondage as part of BDSM or SM, then assessing the quality of the bondage involved several factors on the part of the top (the person doing the restraining) but also on the part of the bottom…
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Author Archive: Tammyjo Eckhart
Assessing the Bdsm Lifestyle
Why would we assess the BDSM lifestyle or BDSM interest any differently than any other sexual or relationship dynamic? Merely by suggesting that BDSM requires a special assessment we ignore the reality that at it’s core, BDSM is merely one…
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Sexual Sadomasochism Abuse or Harmless Play
Sexual sadomasochism, to be truly called by these terms must involve two components: sexual arousal and pain or intense sensations. It does not require any exchange of power or authority or bondage and frankly does not require that traditional sexual…
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Should you go Gray Naturally or Dye your Hair as you Age – Go gray
Part of my answer is frankly a matter of personal tastes and social/political commentary but the other part is based on the fact that one of my sisters co-owns a styling salon and a barber shop and has told me…
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Co Creating Erotica an Inspired way to Learn about another or a Recipe for False
I think there are two ways to co-create erotica. Writing together and talking together. Then there are several motives fro co-creating erotica: getting to know each other is only one of these but this essay will focus on that motivation….
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Keep – Keep
June 14, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
I have never, ever understood why a woman takes the husband’s last name – and I’m a historian! To me, it is illogical but the option isn’t just should she keep her own surname but what can’t he take hers?…
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