Author Archive: Shelly Barclay
Shelly Barclay
August 13, 2014
Family
Being a stay at home mom is one of the most underappreciated and misunderstood “jobs” for a woman to take on. Stay at home moms juggle activities, cleaning, washing laundry, shopping, more cleaning, homework, pet care, doctor appointments and somewhere…
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Shelly Barclay
August 7, 2014
Marriage and Divorce
When a couple first gets married, it seems as if the sex gets hotter. The newlyweds simply cannot get enough of each other. This fervor then fizzles out, for many couples. Is it because women view sex differently after they…
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Shelly Barclay
August 4, 2014
Dating
At the start of a blind date, neither party has any idea if the other party has expectations of him or her, is incompatible with him or her, or worse, is potentially dangerous. Therefore, blind dates can be nerve-wracking experiences….
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Shelly Barclay
August 3, 2014
Crisis Support
Unfortunately, domestic violence is sometimes a side effect of reentering family life after deployment. Quite often, a returning soldier has spent 6-12 months or even more than a year in a combat area. That means that he or she has…
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Shelly Barclay
July 26, 2014
Dating
Prom night is the night many girls dream of all through high school. They get to dress up like princesses and spend the night dancing with their friends and/or boyfriend. High school is almost over. Their whole lives are before…
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Shelly Barclay
July 12, 2014
LGBT
The notion that there are ‘controlling elements’ to gay relationships is a silly one. Furthermore, the notion that there are ‘controlling elements’ to any ‘genre’ of relationships is also silly. Not all straight people have control issues in their relationships;…
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Shelly Barclay
July 9, 2014
Friends and Peers
You may find yourself attracted to another person at the most inopportune moments in your life. Whether or not you are married is irrelevant to your body. Your body’s natural functions will override your sensibilities at least to the extent…
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Shelly Barclay
June 29, 2014
Family
Rainy days are painfully boring for active kids. Even inactive kids may feel the dreariness of a rainy day. You could spend rainy days curled up on the couch watching television with your children or you could do something more…
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Shelly Barclay
June 23, 2014
Family
It has been said before, but it is worth repeating. Having children is not for everyone. It is not a way to validate your worth. It is not the only way to carry on your legacy after you are gone…
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Shelly Barclay
June 21, 2014
Family
Becoming a stepparent is not always the easiest process. However, it can ultimately be a very rewarding one. You can find closeness and love with a stepchild that is equal to that of a biological child. Any great stepparent will…
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Shelly Barclay
June 6, 2014
Dating
People in love have a happy go lucky quality about them that makes the rest of us wish we had what they have. When we do have what they have, we wish it would last forever and that we will…
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Shelly Barclay
May 19, 2014
LGBT
The difficulties of being open about alternate sexual lifestyles, alternate meaning not “straight,” are dependent on many factors. The country, state or town you live in may dictate how easy it is to be open. Your “status” in society, your…
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Shelly Barclay
May 18, 2014
LGBT
It would be nice to say that being a gay teen in high school is just like being a straight teen in high school. To say that they are treated the same as straight teens concerning sexuality would be a…
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Shelly Barclay
April 14, 2014
Dating
Love is the perfect addition to a lonely, troubled or even great life. Love gives you so many freedoms while only asking that you accept it for what it is. This can be a trying task for a person whose…
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Shelly Barclay
April 13, 2014
Dating
There is no denying that sex is approached differently between most men and most women. In other words, the same thing that is going to make a woman say, “No way!” may make a man go, “More, please.” There is…
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Shelly Barclay
April 10, 2014
Dating
It is always a bad idea to make a general statement like “gorgeous men are attracted to ugly women.” It is a bad idea because it automatically presumes that all ‘gorgeous’ men are attracted to ‘ugly’ women. This is simply…
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Shelly Barclay
April 8, 2014
Communication
Falling out of love can be just as simple as falling in love. However, it is a lot harder in the sense that it can be hurtful to your partner or just plain difficult to say. Having already been in…
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Shelly Barclay
April 7, 2014
Crisis Support
Soldiers returning home from deployment often seem different to their family members. Combat has a way of changing the way a person behaves. Sometimes these changes include a tendency toward domestic violence that was not there before the soldier left…
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Shelly Barclay
March 23, 2014
Marriage and Divorce
A lot of things can be lost in the process of divorce and not all of them are material things. Going through a divorce can be both emotionally and psychologically draining, in many ways. Self-esteem is one of the things…
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Shelly Barclay
March 19, 2014
Family
Family members are often seen as people who have each other’s support no matter what. This is an idealistic approach, but it works for numerous people. However, it is not realistic or even healthy for others. There are people who…
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Shelly Barclay
March 6, 2014
Marriage and Divorce
Sex can be a sensual, sexy and romantic experience or it can be the sensory equivalent of standing in line. In other words, it can be unforgettable or it can be annoying. If you have ever had a sexual experience…
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Shelly Barclay
February 26, 2014
Dating
Living alone is not for everybody as it can be lonely. However, for those of us who love our independence and privacy, living alone is much better than having a roommate. Living alone gives us a way to live our…
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Shelly Barclay
February 22, 2014
Dating
Falling in love is an experience that is unique to each individual. Therefore, nothing about love can be stated as fact, unless you’re speaking of your experience. When a person describes love or the process of falling in love, they…
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Shelly Barclay
January 28, 2014
Marriage and Divorce
During a custody trial, considerations like income, quality of shelter, child abuse, neglect, maturity, stability, etc. would ideally the be the most important items on the agenda. A parent’s ability and willingness to care for their child properly is the…
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Shelly Barclay
January 28, 2014
Marriage and Divorce
In child custody and/or paternity cases, you may become familiar with the terms neglect or child support. Neglect is often grounds to deny a parent custody of and/or visitations with their child. Child support is a specific amount of money…
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Shelly Barclay
January 20, 2014
Family
Becoming a parent is, unfortunately, something that is a simple act. All you need is a few minutes and anyone over and below a certain age can become a parent. However, being a deserving parent is another matter altogether. There…
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Shelly Barclay
January 16, 2014
Marriage and Divorce
We often hear about “deadbeat dads” who do not bother to see their children or pay court-ordered child support. They are vilified in the media and jailed by the courts. What we do not often hear about are the moms…
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Shelly Barclay
January 12, 2014
Marriage and Divorce
Seduction is the act of enticing someone. It is using your physical and mental charms to make yourself appealing to a potential partner. It is pointing out your potential partner’s physical and mental charms in a way that makes them…
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Shelly Barclay
January 8, 2014
Crisis Support
Being far away from a beloved family member is tough, regardless of the situation. However, it is even tougher when that family member is deployed. Communication with deployed service members is slim to nil. They may be in harm’s way….
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Shelly Barclay
January 1, 2014
Dating
There are many reasons why a relationship may end. There could be infidelity, your feelings may have changed, there could be too many arguments, etc. However, a breakup does not always mean someone has done something to harm the other…
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