Author Archive: Sheila-Ann Bender
Sheila-Ann Bender
November 6, 2015
Dating
One thing Daddy always said was that you can’t make a person love you back. There are no secret love potions or magic wands that can make it happen. That’s just the cold, hard facts. The chemistry between a man…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
October 24, 2015
Marriage and Divorce
Let’s face it, one marriage is too many for some! Some men and women simply aren’t marriage material and should not be allowed to walk the happily-ever-after aisle at all. Society tells them they should-as well as well-intending friends and…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
October 5, 2015
Friends and Peers
Thanks to Internet technology, I just marvel at the simplicity of finding new friends today. As a girl who grew up before this new wave of technology was born, I remember how anxious I was to meet new friends after…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
October 5, 2015
Friends and Peers
It has been said that friendship is like a lovely glass ornament-once it is broken, it can rarely be put back together the same way again. It is difficult, and at times impossible, to restore a friendship-and most of the…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
October 3, 2015
Friends and Peers
“True friendship is sitting together in silence and feeling like it was the best conversation you’ve ever had.” I really love this definition of friendship. Talking without words. This sort of mirrors another quote on love the 1970 movie, “Love…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
October 2, 2015
Friends and Peers
“Love is friendship set on fire.” This is my favorite definition of love, and I think it nails it right on the head. Hearts burn with romantic love, while friendships really only involve a deep ‘liking’ of someone. Love is…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
October 1, 2015
Friends and Peers
We all need true friends. In fact, the experts claim to have proven that healthy friendships are essential to our mental and physical well-being-it actually lifts hearts and lengthens lives. The quality of our life depends upon the quality (not…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
September 28, 2015
Friends and Peers
The term passive-aggressive’ was first introduced in a 1945 in a U.S. War Department technical bulletin. I described soldiers who weren’t openly insubordinate, but shirked duty through procrastination and willful incompetence. Since that time, it has picked up a few more…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
September 28, 2015
Friends and Peers
Friendship is one of God’s greatest gifts to mankind-no wonder that so many books and quotes have been written on it. It is something each of us innately desires and longs for-and when it finally finds us, it is something…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
September 20, 2015
Friends and Peers
Music is the beautiful universal language that communicates the deepest of feelings and emotions. Since true friendship is valued so highly-something that we all innately desire and search for all of our lives-it is no wonder that friendship songs are…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
September 12, 2015
Dating
When Buddy was in the first grade, Sally always chased him on the playground. Momma said it was because she liked him. Buddy thought that was a funny way to show it, but the next day he was chasing her…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
July 11, 2015
Family
You would probably be surprised to learn just how many family squabbles originate over unwelcome pets. If everyone would just take advantage of a nice kennel facility or pet-sitter when planning an out-of-town visit, there would be far fewer family…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
June 27, 2015
Dating
Flirting is the way guys find out whether or not a girl is interested in them. Since first impressions ARE very important, especially when it comes to dating and such, how a male “approaches” a female is of utmost importance!…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
June 19, 2015
Dating
Appearance, appearance, appearance. That’s what speed dating is really all about. If you want to make a great first impression, it has to start with a drop-dead gorgeous appearance. The right clothes and grooming can even make the Lyle Lovett’s…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
June 3, 2015
Dating
Courtship. I think the last time I heard the term was when that cute little television show called “The Courtship of Eddie’s Father” aired back in the late sixties or early seventies. It was about a young widower, played by…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
June 2, 2015
Dating
Whether Christian or non-Christian, there are universal dating rules that all teens should follow. They should be a standard norm for any pre-adult old enough to date. Naturally, there are additional guidelines that Christian teens should adhere to, but the…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
May 14, 2015
Dating
Asking a complete stranger on a date isn’t the difficult part-it’s convincing them to accept!When my husband was in college, he decided (after much coaxing from his room-mate)to ask a girl out that he’d been admiring from across the room…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
April 5, 2015
Dating
Ahh, the infamously feared blind date. The most hated of all dating forms-and certainly the most stressful. It should only be attempted by men and women who have a sense of humor and enough confidence to handle any situation that…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
April 5, 2015
Dating
Some people have a gift for writing persuasively, and they can make themselves sound smarter and more sincere than they really are. I think this is one of the biggest dangers in an online dating romance. A good writer can…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
March 29, 2015
Dating
There was a time when seniors were afraid of using the Internet. Technophobia, we called it. But, that’s changing today. A large number of seniors actually surf the net. The seniors of 2008 are logging on and proving that you’re…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
March 29, 2015
Dating
A lot of online daters don’t realize the importance in posting photos within their profile. Not having a photo is simply not effective when you are looking for a match – it doesn’t tell potential matches that you are more…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
March 29, 2015
Dating
Online dating is an explosive business right now, but not everyone who plunges into the popular activity ends up as one of happy ga-ga couples we see advertised so frequently on television. The National Consumers League has been tracking what…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
March 16, 2015
Marriage and Divorce
Open your eyes, honey. The spouse is always the last to know because we put on blinders when it comes to the possibility of our life-long partner’s infidelity. Never assume that he or she won’t cheat if given the right…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
March 7, 2015
Dating
Guys are the master at dating without drama. Girls, on the other hand, are the drama queens! We love to gossip about who’s dating who, who’s cheating on who-and we really get our feathers ruffled if we feel another girl…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
February 24, 2015
Dating
You’ve made it through your first speed dating event, and you anxiously await to hear whether or not the attraction you felt for the matches on your score card was mutual. Your heart skips a beat-or two-when your host provides…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
February 24, 2015
Dating
It’s an old cliche which fits every area of life, including speed dating: “If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.” Don’t let yourself become discouraged if you don’t make a match after your first speed dating event-or even…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
February 10, 2015
Skin and Body
The best acne treatments are provided by nature, absolutely free of charge. Proper nutrition, exercise, sunshine and the right soaps are essential keys to a glowing, blemish-free complexion. THE ACNE DEMON: JUNK FOOD I fell victim to acne outbursts as…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
January 4, 2015
Friends and Peers
Contrary to popular opinion, the greatest friendship movies are not chick flicks. For some reason, when our minds try to pull up movies under the friendship category, the first ones to pop-up are all those sappy movies that men love…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
January 3, 2015
Friends and Peers
I don’t think I’ve ever been anyone’s ‘best’ friend, and in my circle of friends, none stick out as my ‘very best’. I like it that way. I have lots of ‘best’ friends. Whomever I happen to be with at…
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Sheila-Ann Bender
December 8, 2014
Dating
Speed dating goes by a lot of names including rapid dating, express meet, and three-minute dating, but it’s really just a flirt’s version of musical chairs. It is a formalized matchmaking process whose sole purpose is to encourage people to…
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