It should be disturbing to everyone that state and local government is now sticking their big snoot in America’s fashions, including fads. Remember in the 1980’s when Marky Mark’s underwear ads in, and on, magazines and billboards were everywhere? His…
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First let me spill a guy secret, we want a cool girl thats not too hung up on her looks. Just like a girl doesn’t like us flexing our muscles in the mirror at ourselves every time we walk past…
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October 4, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Cohabitation prior to marriage may go against the grain of religion and what your parents want you to do, but it is your life after all. That may sound direct and rebellious, but with 50% of couples ending in divorce,…
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October 2, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
This general, broad brush comment is usually uttered by the frustrated. Men have made the same comment about women, usually after a bitter divorce, but we all know it’s not true. The comment would be better asked as a question,…
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One must first ask themselves the reason she left and is it feasible to even try, or do you want to try. It’s easy to feel like you want you want her back once she’s gone because the status quo…
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August 15, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
The two main things for the push for marriage comes in the form of financial (tax breaks) and society (religion). Aside from those two things it’s too easy to meet someone, hit it off and eventually move in together to…
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Cheating is never okay and anyone who engages in the activity, and thinks that it is, is simply rationalizing the behavior in their own minds. When you are with someone whether married or just otherwise shacking up, and if you…
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There are two ways insecurity exists in a relationship, pre-existing and created within one due to actions against the partner. Pre-existing conditions of insecurity is a destroyer of relationships and until the insecure person can let go of the past…
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Lets face it, men are terrible at saying the 3 words often enough, but don’t ever think we don’t feel it. Valentines day, anniversary and birthdays are the most prevalent days of offering up the words so many men find…
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It was only after divorcing a woman I had been with for 18 years did I come to realize that the world was a place I didn’t know. I felt like Austin Powers being unfrozen after 18 years.I found that…
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Finding the fountain of youth, relentlessly building your body at the gym, buying the right car, or learning 10 foreign languages all pale in comparison to just being who you are. Given, you must know proper hygiene and etiquette, as…
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May 27, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Man and women living under the same roof has advantages and I’d like to say more positives than otherwise. It’s nice when no one has an expectation either way of the other as far as house work goes. In my…
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We usually experience the first taste of the lie as children. It’s at an early age that we learn to test, manipulate and thus learn deceit. We test to see what we can get away with and when we reach…
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Being someone that doesn’t like to waste time on someone incompatible I pick places we can talk for the first real date. Of course there is sometimes a first meeting at say a bar, a church, a group gathering etc….
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March 26, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Dating and cohabitation, married or not, living together is new and unexplored territory and until you do it you don’t really know the person. We all have idiosyncrasies that are eventually displayed to our mate when under the same roof….
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March 17, 2015 Friends and Peers
The hardship of ending a friendship varies from person to person, for some it’s fairly easy, for others it may be a very emotional event. Quite typically however, by the time the decision is made to oust a friend, it’s…
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March 5, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
The nuns and priests of the world say that sex only takes their attention away from serving their father. But for the rest of us humans, specifically men, common folklore would tell us that men think about sex every 7-15…
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February 24, 2015 Communication
So many times we assume that the other knows what we are thinking in our minds, which is the first error in communication. The lack of the use of nouns when describing something, and the lack of specifics can create…
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Exploitation depends on how the person being exploited sees it. For example, Playboy magazine founder Hugh Heffner likely knows he is exploited for his money and mansion, but it’s just fine with him. Some men buy sports cars and flash…
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February 19, 2015 Communication
Assumptions are a heavily psychological way of thinking to given situations. Some people tend to think they already know the outcome of a situation or at the very least have some sort of preconceived expectation of it. What assuming does…
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February 13, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
It is said that history repeats itself, and although that may be the tendency, it doesn’t have to hold true. Many people will find that they condition their mate to treat them a certain way through various unconscious clues and…
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February 11, 2015 Communication
Many men have a little something called an “ego” and part of what comes with said ego is the want to be the best, at anything. It’s my belief that couples should be careful what they divulge to each other…
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February 7, 2015 Communication
Communicating has many variants, patience being one of them when needed, but there is much more. Good communication is made even better by performing a quick study of who your listener is and adapting accordingly. Whether on the phone or…
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February 4, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Most of us know or have heard several main reasons why marriages go down a path of destruction which leads to divorce. Infidelity, lack of good communication, money problems, and absenteeism are just a few reasons that we do know….
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February 3, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
As a man in a previous relationship with a controlling woman of 18 years, and finally divorced, I looked for another type of woman. I had theorized, even before the breakup, that we may seek in the next relationship the…
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pajama’s, one of the few pieces of outerwear that should be confined to the home. It’s not so much offensive, it’s in that the way it makes a person look as if they are lazy or don’t care about their…
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January 13, 2015 Communication
In order to discover when to tell or keep a secret, several criteria must be met in the form of self questioning. In other words, if you tell the other, you must ask yourself the ramifications that may be imposed;…
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January 8, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
“He stays out all night drinking, we don’t go out anymore, he never touches me except when he wants something, and he never listens”. If a guy does any amount of introspection and can see that his wife might make…
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November 24, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
The Status quo can stand in the way of happiness. Let me define status quo just to be sure we are on the same page. Status Quo is surviving the existing state of affairs. I will go one further and…
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I could go on a wild tangent of the verse the bible speaks of regarding respecting your mother and father, and the forgive and forget thing. But I have to say, one can forgive but one does not forget, that’s…
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