Do Nice Guys really Finish last – Yes
You drive up to the house for that first date. After parking the car at the curb, you check the time. Good, you’re right on time. One last quick check of your clothes, breath and hair, the car door is…
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Author Archive: R Shimoda
Why Small Breasts are Good
September 3, 2015 Skin and Body
There are many reasons small breasts are good. For starters when you talk to men, there’s a better than even chance they’ll realize your eyes are in your head and not on your chest. Consequently you will most likely meet…
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The Art of Conversation how to have a Polite Conversation
It’s ironic with advent of the Internet, cellular telephones, computers and myriads of devices that allow humans to communicate quickly and accurately, that the art of conversation is dying a fast death. To truly appreciate what is involved in a…
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Emotional Infidelity
The thing that makes emotional infidelity so painful is in addition to being a betrayment of trust in a relationship, it is also very easy to do and harder to detect than sexual infidelity. In any relationship, finding your partner…
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Why do Folks Avoid Relationships
It’s simple, people are afraid to love because of one of two reasons. First they don’t want to get hurt or second, they are afraid of disappointment. I think the media should bear the brunt of the blame for twisting…
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Falling in Love with a Fictional Character
Women fall in love with fictional characters for the same reason men fall in love with fictional characters; namely, because they don’t exist. Let’s be serious, where is a woman going to find a man who’s strong, sensitive, intelligent, supportive,…
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Robbing the Cradle
We’ve seen it happen many times, where an older gentleman is dating a woman young enough to be his daughter and no one thinks it’s odd. However if an older woman is dating a man young enough to be her son, all of…
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National Coming out Day why is National Coming out Day Important
Imagine you wake up one morning and no one could see you, hear you, touch you or had any idea you were around. Going outside of your house would be a disturbing experience as you passed person after person and…
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Dealing with an Alcoholic Loving an Abusive Alcoholic Spouse
Ending any relationship, even an unhealthy one is difficult if there has been a significant amount of time invested to salvage it. Since hindsight is 20-20, it’s always easy for others to look back and say, “Well, I told you…
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Falling in Love too Young
I guess the best way to think about this is to consider how many times has one walked out of a movie theatre thinking that was the best movie you ever seen and there is no need to see any…
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Truth can Society Deal with the Truth
Of course I do…lemme think about that again…maybe not…no, I really want to know…but not if it hurts…how about only the good part? To quote a line from a “Few Good Men”, “Truth! You can’t handle the Truth!” Truer words…
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Difference between Love and Lust
The true test of love versus lust is to ask yourself, if your significant other got fatter or more wrinkled or lost a breast to radical mastectomy, etc, would you still be attracted to them? If the answer is no,…
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Learning to be Tolerant of others
March 17, 2015 Friends and Peers
A very wise priest once told me, “Marriage is learning to be 100% considerate of the other person. It has to be a 2-way street for both people.” At the time when he said this, I didn’t appreciate the wisdom of…
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Why Date a Cougar
The answer to why do some men date cougars is probably for the same reason some younger women date older men. Assets has is part of the story, generally older women will have more money than younger ones. Appearance is…
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Advantages of being Crematedburial vs Cremation why Cremate
February 28, 2015 Crisis Support
For one thing, your remains would occupy less space…sorry, had to get that out of my system. Seriously, this is an issue as the Baby Boomers start to age. Cemetery plots are starting to rise in costs and finding solutions…
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How to Handle your Wifes ex Boyfriend
February 1, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
A husband’s biggest nightmare is to find out his wife is contacting an old boyfriend without saying anything. Is this the end of the world? Maybe and maybe not. There are a number of things to take into account about this…
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Where to look for Vintage Clothes Vintage Clothes Retailers
The best vintage clothes are used ones. That’s right. To those of you that just uttered an mental “yuck”, it’s probably not worth reading the rest of this article. Those who are interested in getting the most bang for their…
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Warning Signs of an Emotional Affair
January 8, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Although an emotional affair doesn’t always involve physical intimacy, for those of who have suffered through one, it still hurts nonetheless. It is a feeling of being violated and being taken for granted. Unfortunately for the spouse who engages in…
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Perfect Wife Perfect Marriage Perfect Wife and Marriage
December 23, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
A friend once described marriage as being a two-way street and in order for it to succeed, both spouses have to learn to be 100% considerate of the other person. Just being a perfect wife, isn’t enough to guarantee a perfect marriage,…
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Topics to Talk to Men about
One of the many good things that has come out of the feminist movement is an equality between the sexes in communicating during the dating phase. Prior to that, like children, it seems women were meant to be seen and not…
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Genealogy the Importance of Writing down your Grandparents Stories
“The Keeper of The Sacred Knowledge” or “The One Who Knows” or (my favorite) “The Historian”, are titles my kids have jokingly given to me at one time or another because of my habit of writing down family history. This…
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Sharing Fantasies – No
August 8, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Today’s society is composed of folks who have problems with self-esteem and having to hear someone’s fantasy life, especially from a spouse, has the effect of putting kerosene on a forest fire. For a spouse to share something this intimate…
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Listening in a Relationship the Importance of Listening
When I was small, my Mom used to always say that listening is more important than talking otherwise you’d have two mouths and one ear. As I get older, I realize how right she was. Too many folks have a…
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Ex Lovers as Friends – No
July 10, 2014 Friends and Peers
This topic really doesn’t even deserve to be a debate. If a couple are ex-lovers, there’s a reason that they no longer feel a connection either sexually or emotionally. How can one expect that incompatibilty to naturally evolve into a…
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Meddling Moms Mother in Laws
June 16, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
You’ve got it all wrong! It’s not interference, but merely Mom trying to help her baby in the last step before leaving the house! (Just kidding, it’s really interference.) This is a phenomena that seems to be common to all…
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Advice for Post Break Ups – No
The first word that pops into my head when I hear “rebound relationship” is “desperate”. Typically folks who participate in these short-term, unstable relationships tend to be desperate. Normally people don’t enjoy being alone and by not being in a…
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Women and Pornography
May 19, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
This is an excellent question and should be a debate topic, but since it’s an article let’s take a look at this issue. The real question is should either person in a committed relationship be upset by finding their significant…
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Secrets in a Relationship – No
April 26, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
There was a time when I used to think this was normal for a married couple to have no secrets between them but as I get older, I began to realize perhaps this thinking is a little too idealistic. Although…
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Signs of a Jealous Man
February 13, 2014 Communication
If this were an ideal world, it would be simple to see when a man is jealous. They’d be the ones carrying the big sign around to let the world know. Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that and to make matters…
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Signs He’s Straying Cheating Husbands
February 9, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
It’s sad when the one you’ve pledged your love and support till “death do you part”, decides to drop their end of the bargain. What really hurts is when the dreaded “talk” comes along where your husband casually says “things…
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