“Why can’t you put the seat down when you’re finished?” She yelled. I answered, “Why can’t you just check the seat before you sit down? I do!” How many times did I have this argument through two marriages? I couldn’t…
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October 26, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Men are not all the same. men are simple and uncomplicated but there are a lot of variations on the theme. They are very basic like five flavors of ice cream, but the differences are subtle. It takes a perceptive…
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The divorce came as a surprise to me. I had married a beautiful girl and watched her grow into a beautiful woman. She was mother to my children and my companion. But end it did. It broke my heart that…
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October 5, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Married or not, true friends are a blessing to our lives and a treasure for life. Unfortunately, most of the people we interact with are toxic at worse, working from a selfish agenda at best. I’m on my second marriage…
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So few people could tell you the meaning of Unrequited Love. Yet almost everyone has experienced it at some point in their lives. Especially in those tumultuous times of the teen years. Teenagers are experiencing a new form of love…
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June 14, 2015 Style and Beauty - Other
Inner beauty is the only real beauty. The looks that adorn the outside are like the leaves of a tree; here for a season and gone in a short time. Only inner beauty endures. I traveled a great deal as…
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June 4, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
I can’t speak for all men but I’ve never claimed to be more mature than necessary. I can be deadly serious when I have to be; twenty years in the military attest to that. But I definitely enjoy playing –…
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May 20, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
When it comes to children and divorce; Communication is the answer to the problem. All too often the parents are so wrapped up in their emotional turmoil with each other they forget to settle matters with the children. Breaking apart…
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As a man who was once single, once divorced and twice married, I have learned that the Future is a very important topic for couples. Unfortunately, it rarely comes up early in the relationship. That’s too bad because a couple…
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March 16, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
“Better living through DIVORCE!” This one line got me through the darkest parts of my divorce. I was a young man serving in the Navy on my second deployment to the far side of the world. One month short of…
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March 13, 2015 Friends and Peers
Interracial friendships have always been my closest friendships. I was lucky to have grown up in racially mixed communities. Very seldom did I find myself surround by a majority of kids who were Black like me. Looking back at the…
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February 26, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
If you think your spouse is cheating he or she probably is. Most of the time there are very big warning signs that the other spouse is trying not to see; trying to rationalize. Oh, the cheating spouse has a…
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February 21, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
This topic fails in its very conception. Marriage cannot be defined outside of religion because it is an entirely religious concept. Outside of the moral strictures of religion there are no natural guidelines for bonding men and women or settling…
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February 20, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
A jealous partner can be an endearing thing – or the definition of LIVING HELL. A mildly jealous partner is expressing their love and concern for the relationship. They simply worry that the relationship might end and that the partner…
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February 10, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Dating after divorce is difficult. The one unexpected complication is strong emotional reactions from your ex-spouse. You’d think that the fact that so much time has passed since you two called it quits would make a difference. You’d be wrong….
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I once heard a time-traveling cartoon character refer to the 80’s this way: “The entire decade was a fashion disaster.” He wasn’t far off considering the Pat Benatar-, Jane Fonda Workout influenced styles for women. Men faired little better. The…
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December 24, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Getting on with your life after divorce is difficult – even for the noncustodial father. Many are shocked to see their children’s reaction to their efforts to date new people. From the child’s point of view it is the final…
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October 17, 2014 Friends and Peers
Not every person missing is the victim of a crime, not all who are lost are trying to remain hidden. Sometimes all it takes to reunite lost loves is a little work and a nose for details. The trick to…
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May 11, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
To survive an unwanted divorce, you need to find peace. To find peace you need to let go. Few people believe that an unwanted divorce could even happen. Certainly there are clues: conflicts, changes in behavior or general dissatisfaction. These…
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February 12, 2014 Communication
Young women today are being brought up to “want what they want” without respect to themselves or to others. If a girl sees a handsome man who might make a good boyfriend or husband, she tries to catch his eye….
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December 13, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
“Living well is the best revenge.” Twenty years ago this seemed like a crazy philosophy but it made good instinctive sense. Even in the middle of an unwanted divorce where I felt betrayed and abandoned, this made sense. The judge…
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