What do we mean by “love”? Could there ever be love, a connection, a depth of feeling between two people, without physical attraction? Clearly the answer is “yes”. Plenty of old couples, such as my late grandparents, love each other,…
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A relationship without sex is unthinkable for most of us. We are so used to thinking of lack of sex being itself the most serious problem in any relationship that we have forgotten how to look at sex itself as being problematic [1]. So…
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Is it possible to have too much sex? Many of us think we are not having enough, but the idea that you could have too much seems like something reserved for celebrities: “sex addiction”, maybe. In fact sex addiction is…
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Pleasing a man is not that different from pleasing a woman. We’re all people and we all want to be adored! So here are some ways men will feel adored. It is true that regular, exciting sex will please your…
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Sexiness, like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder. Unlike beauty, it is raw and powerful, acting on impulses we find hard to control or even understand. The priority we give to sexual attraction has found its way into…
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June 24, 2015 Friends and Peers
Low self-esteem kills relationships. It can happen so easily: one partner falls into a cycle of low self-esteem without noticing it. The other is left increasingly confused and the bonds of the relationship loosen. Low self-esteem can eat its way through…
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Guys are not experts at hiding their feelings. So if a guy likes you, there are some clear signs for you to spot. Firstly, believe it or not, if a guy likes you, really likes you, he will do a…
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Hearing someone complain is annoying. But there are times when it is necessary. The two people involved in any relationship are powerful, emotional beings and they will sometimes have negative things they need to discuss. A relationship cannot be healthy…
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March 19, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
This is a very difficult question, not least because you might not even realise you’re having an emotional affair until it’s too late. You know that colleague at work, the one you’re really close to? The one who touches you…
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You’ve been talking to her for a while and you seem to be getting on well. But – does she like you? Would she go out with you? And if she did, would it go anywhere? There are ways to…
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February 14, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
You are married, or in a relationship. You love your partner with all your heart: you make love to them regularly and you share your life with them. And yet… Sometimes you see a very sexy person in the street;…
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February 14, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
It seems harsh, never to forgive someone. Surely we can put the past behind us, let bygones be bygones, and work through everything? No. Not always. Sometimes people do things to us we cannot forget. And without being able to…
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A break-up doesn’t always cause self-esteem problems, but when it does it can affect your life for years. It can shatter your whole sense of self, leaving you struck dumb by what has happened. And these can lead further, down…
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What do men look for in a partner? Just as there is no such thing as “men”, one single identifiable mass, so there is no single answer. Each man brings his own life, his dreams, his loves, his childhood to…
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Sex is wonderful, but complicated. When we deal with sex, we are dealing with the most powerful of the human instincts. It’s a force of nature and it is so much more than just “fun”. So that means be careful….
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Sometimes the old cliches are right. You can break a heart, and you can also mend it again. When you are scrabbling around on the floor for the pieces of your heart, and you can hardly see them for tears,…
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January 8, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Cheating is often the end of the relationship. Whether it is or not should be between you and your spouse. But even so, there are things worth thinking about if you are the victim of a cheating partner. Firstly, is…
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September 29, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Sex is not everything in a marriage. You need love, first and foremost. You need companionship, shared interests, shared sympathies. But it is an important part of this human jigsaw. Think about what sex is. It is two people – in…
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September 4, 2014 Skin and Body
Body image is a central part of many women’s lives. How they look, how others see them, how they feel being what they are – it all begins surprisingly early in a woman’s life, even in the pre-teen years sometimes….
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August 6, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Sex can be wonderful, but it isn’t just a physical thing. It needs mood, atmosphere and a connection between the partners for it to be the magical experience we all want it to be. So what can you do to…
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One of the most unjust elements of twentieth century psychology was the notion that you could always blame your parents. Everyone recognises and understands that people are shaped by their experiences as children: no-one would doubt that. But the idea…
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March 7, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Sex isn’t easy for anyone, male or female. It might surprise you to learn that despite the acres of pornography we walk through every day, despite the hyper-sexual image that women are encouraged to adopt by a largely male-run media,…
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