March 5, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
“Unselfishness” is the secret to keeping a marriage alive. Look around at all the couples you know. It doesn’t take long to see all those who are me-centered. The person who must always be right; have the most “toys”; be…
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March 4, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
In addressing the topic of things a woman should know before getting married can be answered two different ways. One can either list traditional tasks that a woman will be expected to perform in the home or things she should…
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Oh, how often the statement, “absence makes the heart grow fonder,” comes into the thoughts of those involved in a long distance relationship. For when the couple finds that open window of time together, though it may be brief, it…
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February 25, 2015 Communication
Smalltalk gets you as far as your automobile travels once the gas light has come on. Not very far. It fits in perfectly for the quick run-ins at the grocery store or school yard. However, at such places as a…
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Who would have imagined twenty years ago that you could meet your future spouse without ever leaving your home? We all would have laughed at the thought. But it is happening more often than we realize. Online dating raises a…
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Your spouse is approaching retirement, a long-awaited goal. You’re both excited and apprehensive as that day draws closer. It’s not unlike the anticipated joy of your first born. Then the baby’s born and you realize that you weren’t prepared for parenthood. Retirement…
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Family gossip can be horrendous. Because it is most often filled with negativity, it’s generally destructive rather than constructive. So, just why do people, who are supposed to love one another, act maliciously? One could respond, “because they can.” Blood…
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February 10, 2015 Communication
Since only one perfect person ever existed, and that was over two thousand years ago, every human born thereafter has had imperfections. Therefore, we have no choice in a marriage relationship, or any relationship for that matter, but to embrace…
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January 31, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
When something is precious to you, you take specials measures to preserve and take care of it. Right? For example, a brand new car or house for which you worked long hours to save up for the down payment, or…
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January 30, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
It’s like asking if a wife should have her own clothes closet. Of course, a wife should have her own bank account. Independence and security are two reasons that immediately come to mind. She should have her own source of…
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January 26, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Chances are that you don’t believe that you have bad habits. After all, you are honest, trustworthy and an all round decent person. But, let’s just take a look at some common not-so-good habits that people in general tend to…
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One of my most favorite pairs of shoes were a famous-name brand of sandals that I wore for over twenty years from the time the snow melted in late winter or early spring until after the snow began to fall…
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January 24, 2015 Crisis Support
Death is not kind to the living. The shock that occurs at the moment of a loved one’s death brings our life to a seemingly abrupt halt. Whether or not the death is expected, we each experience shock in varying…
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You want someone with whom you can go places, laugh, hug, kiss and share your life. It’s lonely living alone. Going out isn’t as easy as it used to be, so you begin to consider entering the latest mode of…
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Relax. Relax. Relax. How often have you heard that someone found their soul mate when they weren’t searching. When we look too hard, we “can’t see beyond our nose,” as my mother would say. Traditional means of locating that someone…
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Do you ever take those tests on television where you watch a crime taking place and then try to determine which suspect was the criminal? For example, you stood in line next to a clean cut, good looking young man…
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As long as a child remains in the home of their parents, they are responsible for obeying the rules that parents set. Once they grow up and leave their parents’ home, their responsibility changes. Suddenly they are totally responsible for…
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December 22, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Before entering into a marriage relationship, I must do my own homework. For how can I engage in a life-long commitment with another individual if I have not first put my own life into order? In other words, how can…
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December 19, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Ah, yes, the movies portray the romance of a younger woman attracted to and adored by an older man. The big screen certainly makes the love affair look inviting, but there is more to the “rest of the story.” What…
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December 1, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Unless couples decide from the beginning of their relationship to put time and effort into maintaining their marriage and tending to its growth into a life-long partnership based on truth, openness and unconditional love, they will most often find themselves…
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Excitement fills the lives of every family member during Springtime. Winter’s blahs have passed. The fresh air and floral fragrances invite us outdoors. Children can’t wait to pull out their bicycles and outdoor toys. Why not welcome Spring with family…
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Simple is fun. Planning is the secret. Children love being part of the planning, especially when you incorporate their ideas. They come up with terrific suggestions, too. Whether you have babies or teens, it is never too early nor too…
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November 13, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Friends, especially long-term ones, know us sometimes better than we know ourselves. They’ve traveled life’s road with us riding the ups and downs, joys and disappointments and we have even endured spats between us. We share a communication unlike that…
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November 12, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Not all women are nags. Are we? Some men may simply be sensitive to being asked to do something. Women, we may have found the one sensitive area in a man. Imagine that. They don’t usually have an agenda when…
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November 11, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Once you’ve exchanged vows, to ensure that the “I do” does not turn into “I regret,” you must work on maintaining a healthy relationship. So often people slack off after their wedding day. The niceties, sweet words and thoughtfulnesses fall…
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November 11, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
When we exchanged “I do’s,” little did we know over the years what curves and bumps, dips and drop-offs would test our commitment to each other. What we did share was a belief in our own abilities to endure the…
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November 11, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
How to please your woman? Okay, men, hold down the laughter. That is a loaded question. It’s also an extremely important one, because the contentment in your marriage or relationship depends upon it. To some men, this would be the…
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November 10, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Jealousy in a relationship is like having cancer. It will eat away at you until your marriage is either over or beyond repair. Think of it this way. Imagine having another person in your bedroom with you. You are never…
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October 26, 2014 Communication
So, you’ve made a mistake. You were wrong. After all, we’re not perfect. Before you can request forgiveness from your partner, you must forgive yourself. If you think about it, yourself is probably the more difficult one to face. This is…
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October 24, 2014 Communication
Belief in yourself is your most important tool for dealing with anger management. Somewhere along your way, you stopped being sure of you. You lost your confidence. Reclaim it now. Own it. Nobody can do that but you. It’s yours…
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