There are many behaviors that can destroy a relationship – even a good one. But the following seven behaviors are among the most toxic behaviors couples engage in when they are fighting. 1.Hitting below the belt I’ve placed this strategy at…
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Long distance dating relationships and long distance marriages are increasingly common. However, physical distance poses certain risks to these relationships. In my more than thirty years of experience as a psychotherapist, I’ve concluded that these risks vary in quality and…
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June 21, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Marriage requires team work. This is especially true when it comes to resolving conflict. The absence of a team approach to working through differences can lead to problems that grow worse over time. Blaming is a frequent symptom in marriages that lack team work….
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August 11, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
While it’s commonly understood that ‘marriage takes work,’ few couples really understand what this means. They often think ‘work’ involves disentangling problems when they occur. While this is one aspect of keeping a relationship healthy, there are many other elements…
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July 14, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Not long ago, someone called me to inquire about marriage counseling. They asked, “What’s your success rate?” I told them I didn’t keep statistics on this and I didn’t know any therapist who did. BUT… their question intrigued me. First…
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July 14, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Every marriage, regardless of how difficult, unhappy or tumultuous – leaves a void when it ends. The feelings of loss and depression that accompany divorce can lead to a deep sense of isolation. This may result in an intense desire to find a new romantic…
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April 24, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Pre-Marital Counseling Builds Healthier Marriages Engaged couples who are happy together may not see the relevance of premarital counseling. However, those couples who have an easy courtship are often least prepared for the challenges of married life. In contrast, couples…
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February 16, 2014 Communication
. In this article, I provide guidelines that can help couples fight fairly and constructively. 1. Never attack your partner where he or she is most vulnerable. Good relationships help people heal from old wounds. Instead of trying to hit…
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January 26, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
There are certain broad categories that cover the most common reasons for divorce. If you are considering divorce or if you’ve already gone through a divorce, you may find one or more of your reasons in this list. 1.Incompatibility People…
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