Author Archive: Jae Baeli

There is, I believe, only one pertinent reason why gay marriage has not been legalized nationwide in America. It’s because there is an inherent repulsion about it on the part of some straight people-usually the religious ones-who believe marriage should…
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The Lost Art of Dating (for Lesbians) Meeting someone online is only effective when it is used as a means to connect, but then followed up fairly quickly with an in-person meeting. It doesn’t matter much if you have all…
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Lesbian Dating sites: A Dubious Solution to Dating-Deficit There are quite a few lesbian dating sites, but many of them are, unfortunately, sub-par. I’ve been using them almost since they all began, and this is only some of what I’ve…
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George Bernard Shaw said “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” I tend to agree. How many times have you said to someone, “What am I, a mind-reader?” or “How could I have…
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Maintaining a relationship is often a solution best sought internally, rather than externally. Understanding yourselves is the first step to understanding your partners. In one survey, specifically directed at those women who identify as lesbian, 30% said they were “Penis…
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You didn’t have to attend the Miss Manners School of Etiquette to have gleaned some common sense rules about how to behave while dating. Social skills are of the utmost importance if you wish to be perceived as a person…
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Boredom & In-laws Sometimes a barren sex life is not the issue. There are many things that can endanger the quality of your relationship. Boredom, conflicts with In-laws, and finances are among the most common. BOREDOM:When boredom strikes, the solution…
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More and more, lesbians are caught in the quagmire of Internet dating, simply because it’s easier to find other gay people that way. But if you do the math, you’ll understand why. Our society is still hetero-dominate, and that means…
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Lesbian Bed Death: What’s it All About? Many lesbians say that their relationships end due to “Lesbian Bed Death”- the lack of sex in the relationship. I contend that Lesbian Bed Death is not the cause, but rather the symptom;…
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In standard dating, meaning, in person, and not in the preliminary meeting stages online, there are often a different set of red flags and deal breakers. These are usually connected to the dynamic that is created through several interactions. Swift…
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The advise I offer here is based upon my own hard-won understanding, and the counsel of other lesbians who have also been privy to the lessons that relationships teach us. Many of the same rules apply to nurturing a long-term…
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