April 20, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
We all seek happiness in our lives, but being happy in a relationship is not so easy to achieve for two important reasons. Our happiness often depends on the other person’s mood and expectations, and couples don’t always coincide on…
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The implications of emotional evolution on our relationships is crucial to our understanding of why they fail. Relationships do not crash without reasons, and often the invisible force of our individual development over time is the real death knell of…
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Can one really make one’s self more attractive to others? Perhaps. It is not so easy because attraction is such an individual process; a completely random activity. However, tthere are certain patterns or trends within it. There are four main…
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April 1, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Two incidents were reported separately in two different countries within a day of each other. On the face of it, they were not connected in any way, but they were inextricably linked in three ways: by sex, power and cheating….
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March 24, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Most women cheat through neglect, boredom and being taken for granted. Many people forget a vital factor when they get into a relationship: that human beings are constantly evolving and developing different aspirations, needs and expectations. Cheating with someone else…
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Unfaithfulness occurs in relationships for a variety of reasons, depending on the individuals involved. However, there are some key triggers for such behaviour which always include the following. 1. Lack of Value: people who feel insignificant, unappreciated and low in…
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February 18, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
When children arrive, even though they enrich families and are usually desired, they need a lot of care and attention and can be very demanding. Often it’s the fathers who are squeezed out of the attention while mothers are often…
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February 16, 2014 Communication
Look everywhere on dating sites and almost everyone is seeking someone with a ‘good sense of humour’ (GSOH). Others are seeking someone to ‘make them laugh’, but as I am not a comedian, I tend to avoid those people wherever…
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February 9, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
If partners have not kept up with each other, or kept the love alive, the relationship will go into decline, with the husband, most likely, voting with his feet. There are six sure signs that your husband is not interested…
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January 30, 2014 Friends and Peers
Q. Do you think we can make real friends on the Internet? I always believed that real friends had to be close to you, not long distance as those on the Internet. I am beginning to believe that we don’t…
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January 18, 2014 Communication
Getting to know someone better, and taking time to understand their beliefs and perspective, whether we agree with them or not, help to get rid of perceptions which are based more on fear than on fact. Listening to someone, while…
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Is sex right on a first date? There’s no question of right or wrong in these cases. That’s a value judgement which reflects society’s double standards on sex, particularly with regard to women. It also does not take into account…
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Many men are intimidated by ex-boyfriends because of a variety of reasons, especially the following: 1. Possessiveness: Men like to feel that they ‘own’ their woman and dislike the thought that another man was in the picture. They don’t like…
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Are some men scared of successful women? Yes they are, for four main reasons. That’s why they are losing at the dating game. First, men no longer have the special position they enjoyed in the family as a protector, or…
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December 29, 2013 Communication
To avoid a fight, try not to let the argument get too heated. Continuing with dialogue is the key, especially a productive one that will have results at the end of it instead of too much blame and scapegoating which…
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December 29, 2013 Communication
Personally, I always have a big laugh when I read what some agony aunts dole out by way of advice to the suffering public, which only shows how little they appreciate modern relationships. The prized ones always include ‘talking to…
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November 30, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
20 Big DONTS in a Relationship Everyone hopes they have found their true mate and they will all live happily ever after, despite the increasing number of divorces and break-ups. But unfulfilled expectations always get in the way. Most of…
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Revealing your sexual past entirely depends on the two people involved. For many people who are insecure, and desiring exclusiveness, they cannot cope with their partner’s past involvement with anyone else. They often get jealous, they are apt to judge…
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Everyone loves a surprise, especially when they are in love, feeling heady and just want to be valued and appreciated. There are tons of things a couple can do to keep the love fires burning and prevent their relationship settling…
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October 10, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
According to one writer, when people set up home together the most common expectations of the union include “Having a housekeeper, a dinner partner, a traveling companion, someone with whom to debate current affairs and someone to share leisure interests…
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September 23, 2013 Communication
Three special words, “I Love You”, but when should I say them? The most beautiful words we can say to anyone we care about are, “I love you”. They are the greatest form of affirmation we have in our language,…
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September 19, 2013 Communication
Why focusing on looks in women causes many men to get hurt! Most men with whom I get into any kind of conversation around dating and relationships appear keen to boast about one thing: that men are very ‘visual’ in…
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Q. Why do I have a severe hatred for my little brother?….I don’t know why but I really hate my little brother. Just something about him I hate. A. It seems likely that you feel left out of things with your…
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We all have core values which are non-negotiable. Those values define our personality, they give us our principles and they feed into our identity which all adds to our uniqueness. But the main things they indicate about us is what…
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Teenagers are seldom disrespectful without a reason, because every child wants to be loved and valued. They would not risk their feeling of security and inclusion for the sake of it. The following are the most common reasons for disrespect,…
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It is usually frustrating dating a workaholic because one is never sure when they will turn up! There are some people who are workaholics of their own choosing, either because they genuinely like working, they do it to stave off…
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