October 12, 2014 Relationships and Family - Other
Two people become attached. That is accepted. People change from infancy to adulthood. That is also accepted. When two people come together in marriage or a relationship they will change over time during that relationship and, depending on their perception…
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Q. My brother tends to take advantage of me because I like to help him whenever I can but he never does anything in return. Not even when I have problems does he care to help. He ignores me then…
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First dates can be nightmares for some people, especially those who are shy and wish to impress. How do you normally cope with a first date? Do you usually feel uptight, unsure of how to act, a little insecure and…
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September 23, 2014 Crisis Support
Whatever practical skills a mother has, the defining ones are really emotional, of which the key ones are listed here. Everything else should fall into place if these are at the forefront: 1. Love and Affection: This is an obvious…
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Main Reasons for Women Remaining Single From marrying at the age of 12 or 14 in the 16th century, more and more couples are waiting until they are in their 30s (women now at 32 and men at 35, on…
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Many people who have confidence believe that it is not too difficult to ask someone out. It’s as easy as striking up a conversation. But it is is quite nerve wracking for some due to four main things: one’s level…
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8 Tired Online Dating Profile Clichés That Should Be Avoided! Go on any dating site, especially where Britons are, and it is as if they are all copying each other in a revolving fest of cliches that make you feel…
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It is very easy for our self-esteem to take a nosedive the minute we have had a break up, especially when we did not instigate it and feel rejected, because breaking-up is emotionally draining. Nothing prepares us for it. We…
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The changing colour of our hair is the biggest indication of getting older and can often cause a lot of anxiety to anyone feeling fearful of the ageing process, or wishing to delay it for as long as possible. There…
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September 6, 2014 Communication
How Good Conversation Can Repair Relationships Repairing any damaged relationship requires self-exploration and self-disclosure – which means LOTS of communication and discussions. This also requires listening carefully without having to defend one’s self, to have some personal control, to give…
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September 6, 2014 Communication
Some Key Questions For Resolving Problems in Your Relationships The first place to begin in a problem relationship is to think about how you will take responsibility for your part in it. Nothing is ever one way or down to…
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September 3, 2014 Communication
GENDER APPROACHES TO SEX For most men, sex is done for its own sake an act to be engaged in and enjoyed, with or without love, with or without commitment and with or without emotional connection. Men see sex as…
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September 2, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Is sex in a marriage an obligation or an act of love? Q. It seems that some men tend to think it that way. What if wife is so tired from doing chores all day and also with the kids…
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August 26, 2014 Friends and Peers
The most important quality in a relationship is reciprocity, or give and take, and working in tandem together. It focuses on the positive elements of the union and reduces potential conflict. Evatt and Feld (1983) suggest that most marriages are…
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Saying ‘thank you’ and giving gratitude does not come easily for many people. It is often difficult to say ‘thank you’ for a variety of reasons, especially the following main ones: 1. General lack of interactional skills in dealing with…
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Families of alcoholics have Al-anon to help them cope with the addict. There should be a similar one for relationships, where people can meet and share good practice and practical approaches to family/ relationship problems. Many parents meet at various…
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August 11, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
30 Essential Actions For Dating Your Partner Forever It is very easy to fall into bad habits of negativity and avoidance in a relationship. Below are ideas to maintain your love or to give it a positive boost. The list…
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How Unrealistic Expectations Trap us in Our Search For a Soulmate The biggest obstacle to successful relationships. How often have you heard that someone is only seeking ‘fun’ or ‘friendship first’ before a relationship? These are both highly unreal expectations….
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July 14, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Marriage is not for everyone because it depends on what the individual is seeking for her/himself, whether they are confident or insecure and whether they value domesticity over a career. Moreover, the whole concept of marriage, of bringing two virtual…
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Q. We’re both 41, previously married. He has lived with me nearly 2 yrs. Proposed unromantically standing in kitchen with a ring my aunt gave him which was bought from a pawn shop. Thought maybe he’s not romantic, but found…
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July 4, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
One of the biggest causes of breakdowns in relationships is simple neglect of a partner once children appear on the scene. No attention, no affection and, worst of all, no sex, as spouses become lost in the routine and minutiae…
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July 4, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
A common reason of divorce is that we married the ‘wrong’ people. But is that really true? The short answer is NO! There is nothing ‘wrong’ about the partners being divorced. That’s what we like to believe when we don’t…
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June 16, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Many of us have experienced the interfering mother-in-law syndrome and feel some kind of exasperation about it. But mothers interfere with their children’ marriages for five basic reasons. The first is an attempt to cope with the empty nest syndrome…
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June 14, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
For a more enjoyable sexual relationship, experts suggest a combination of useful tips, including the following: 1. Be honest, open and direct. Don’t pretend. Just be genuine. If you don’t know what your partner is thinking, wanting or feeling (and…
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Mistakes are only repeated when people refuse to learn the message from those mistakes because, in effect, there is no such thing as a mistake. We coin the word ‘mistake’ in order to use hindsight to judge our past from…
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There are many factors that contribute to compatibility between two people. If we look closely at a relationship that has lasted at least 20 years, this later stage of marriage is marked by mutual reinforcement and interdependence on each other,…
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May 13, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
No, this should not be necessary at all because a marriage is not about money. It is about two people desiring to share their life together, without any coercion. Any emphasis on money sends out the wrong signal as to…
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May 12, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
There are, of course, many reasons why people divorce. But there are 10 top ones which seem to crop up regularly between couples and they can be divided into two clear categories. 1. The PHYSICAL reasons which tend to be…
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Parents who think their child is a failure are primarily reflecting the subconscious thoughts about their past, expecting that child to fulfil the hopes and dreams that haven’t materialised for them. They tend to seek a career ideal for the…
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April 26, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
The Importance Having Fun Together And Apart Any relationship is a partnership, but you are still two individuals. You need to remember that fact. It’s tempting to think that, once you are married, or settled together, you are now joined…
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