January 26, 2015 Communication
Why do most women seem to rather hear the sweet nothings than observe the acts that actually demonstrate love? Very true, but what exactly are the ‘acts’ that demonstrate love? In whose opinion? It might seem like ‘sweet nothings’ to…
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January 26, 2015 Communication
The Emotional Factor in Attraction Of the three main attraction elements: emotional, physical and intellectual, this one is very important for the long-lasting part of the relationship which is so sought after. If you are physically attracted to someone without…
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January 25, 2015 Communication
How Communication Affects The State of a Relationship There is a direct association between the quality of a couple’s communication skills and the quality of their relationship. Good communication is not just talking about the problems we have, it is…
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January 23, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Only once. If you keep forgiving that person, the respect will gradually go as they repeat it for good measure. The reason why cheating husbands deserve forgiveness at least once is because no one leaves a fulfilling and satisfactory relationship…
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January 23, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Question: Does he still want to cheat? For weeks, a married man bends over backwards trying to get a married woman to go back to his office after she left the company, and they had been flirting for months. His…
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January 23, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Yes, they are, because, with technology coming to the forefront, that is the nature of the age we are gradually moving into and there are a few key reasons for this. First, virtual relationships lend themselves easily to being controlled…
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January 23, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
How often do we see requests for friendship, or for lovers, in various advertisements, with the added desire that ‘no one should get hurt’. This mainly applies to men seeking temporary solace from their negative home situations who either lack…
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January 22, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Often one hears men, particularly celebrities or those in the public eye (British Prime Minister John Major and his mistress Edwina Currie come to mind), when their affairs are outed, bemoaning what a mistake it was (always the men, for…
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January 17, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Q. My best friend told me this yesterday: “We are in relationship for more than a year now and we have already planned to get married. But I was taken back when he introduced me to his friends as his…
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January 17, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
A little further on in the fifth century BC, the Greeks were setting the pace for their earliest marriages. Pandora was viewed as the first bride, as well as the first woman. Her name is derived from the word meaning…
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January 17, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
He says his affair was ‘not his fault’! Q. During a conversation I heard of a friend whose husband had an affair but it wasn’t his fault? Reason – he was seduced! What a cop out. IMO no male or…
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Why Young People’s Approach to Sex Often Differs Sex can be very different when we are young than when we are older because our perspectives are likely to be different, we are far more experienced and mature and our expectations…
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January 16, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Two Important steps in Dealing With Cheating and Betrayal 1. Take time to grieve.Once you have discovered the cheating or betrayal, recognise and accept that it is all right, even necessary, to go through the process of grief over the…
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January 16, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Five things stand out which make an ordinary marriage ‘great’. If they are embedded in the relationship on a routine basis, very few marriages can go wrong. They are placed in order of priority. 1. Reciprocity: This little word is…
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January 13, 2015 Communication
I have lost my friends because of my partner….. Q. My partner and me have been together 5 years and in that time I have lost all but a couple of my freinds. If my friends come around my partner…
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January 13, 2015 Communication
Three clear elements make up romantic attraction: physical, emotional, and intellectual. Finding love depends on all three elements coming together at the same time. A casual sexual relationship tends to be purely physical, it carries little emotional commitment with it,…
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January 12, 2015 Communication
In the past, leaving a relationship, especially a marriage, was often problematic because of the stigma attached to divorce, especially as marriage used to be for life. Nowadays, many women remain in unsatisfying relationships of their own choice for five…
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Do online relationships last? Q. If your relationship/marriage was made online, there’s a one in three chance that you will be sitting in front of a marriage counsellor, say experts. Psychiatrists have recorded an increase in the number of couples,…
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January 10, 2015 Communication
Understanding men is not so easy to do, in view of the fact that men and women were made deliberately different, and complementary to each other for mating. It follows that they are going to see the world differently, have…
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Breaking up with a girlfriend is never easy especially when some men are not very good communicators and tend to shy away from the emotional hassle of having to bare their feelings to others. But one reason why breaking up…
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January 6, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Is it moral to go through your partner’s things? Q. One of my very good friend was suspecting that her partner is up to something no good. When he had a shower, she looked into his mobile. She then discovered…
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January 4, 2015 Friends and Peers
Low self-esteem can damage relationships because it is not a positive feel-good thing. It can be very destructive and soul-destroying. Low self-esteem has fear and lack of confidence at the heart of it and affects three main areas of one’s…
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I have read so often the desire of many single people to find the ‘right’ person to love. Not right for now, for two weeks, or for a couple of years but for the ideal ‘rest of my life’. Yet…
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November 29, 2014 Style and Beauty - Other
Self-Neglect. This is a tendency to put yourself last and to stress self-sacrifice. But martyrs are seldom happy and where there is only gloom, there is little satisfaction. More often, such martyrs are likely to be depressed, angry, resentful, bitter…
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My neighbor caught her husband talking to his mistress on the phone. What should she do? Q. Early this morning my neighbor, who is almost a sister to me, came to me devastated and crying. Last night, she caught her…
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Emotional infidelity begins with neglect which itself stems from a lack of appreciation and value. In short, it arises from a deep emotional need within us when our feelings are unfulfilled and when one’s emotional health is low, especially through…
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If you meet someone, fancy the pants off them, and desire a relationship and the other person is mainly interested in being ‘just friends’, get out of there fast! It might seem like a great idea, playing to the other…
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How a Lack of Courtesy, Effort and Social Skills Online Rob us of Potential Dates Common courtesy seems to be escaping many people, women in particular, in responding to approaches. Many professional and articulate women are registered on websites, or…
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Today there are more people searching for new partners than ever before with even more stories of them failing to find the right ones, without anyone really appreciating why the constant mismatch goes on. Obviously people can all point to various reasons why…
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October 12, 2014 Relationships and Family - Other
On the whole, men have it easier in the earlier years: socially, sexually and economically. It is their world and they usually enjoy it. Not so for the later years. By the time both genders are in the 40s-50s age…
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