Author Archive: Elaine Sihera

Coping With Betrayal: Release Your Anger and Forgive. This isn’t easy to do because none of us is an angel. But carrying anger and hostility around is as physically and emotionally draining as carrying a large, heavy boulder on your…
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Yes, but only if it was really a cry for attention from a neglected partner or the person was not discovered. When people cheat, the fact that they go out of the relationship to be intimate with someone else can…
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There are many bad habits in a marriage and one cannot deal with them all here, but there are 5 main ones to watch out for: 1. Taking each other for granted. This is the worst habit in a marriage:…
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Love enhances individuals and cements a relationship. When two people come together, they do it for mutual enrichment and the love of each other. In fact, the feeling of ‘being in love’ is an elated state of joy everyone aspires…
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Should Anyone Bother to Get Married? Despite what has been said about the decline in marriage, the advantages of marriage often outweigh the adverse effects. When it works there is nothing to beat it for establishing a firm emotional and…
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Help! My ex wants me back but he is married! Q. My ex just call me today asking why I left him. I told him that I sent him a letter stating all I wanted to tell him. It was because…
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Most people who cheat do so because of low self-esteem. It is likely to be something they have acquired during the relationship. Very few people cheat if the relationship at home is satisfying. Whenever anyone cheats it is often a…
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As anyone who has experienced some form of infidelity knows, it is not an easy thing to deal with betrayal. Apart from any sex involved, there is usually verbal abuse or bullying, stonewalling of a partner, violation of privacy, many,…
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Two Important steps in Dealing With Betrayal and Building New Trust 1. Take time to grieve.Once you have discovered the betrayal, recognise and accept that it is all right, even necessary, to go through the process of grief over the…
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Some black women don’t marry because of cultural pressures and expectations around their partners. There is a lot of fear around marriage because of the specific cultural behaviour that characterises being black. With the high number of black children without…
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Many people in conflicting partnerships will say that they prefer to stay together for the children’s sake’ while living a lie to protect them. But this is a BAD idea. Though it might give some temporary benefit to the children,…
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It is a most stressful time when there is a marriage crisis because it is easy to feel that one’s world is falling apart, slowly and menacing;y. There is often a lot of anger, resentment, blaming, confusion and bitterness. At…
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Relationships often go stale and dull when couples settle into complacency. Often the burden of keeping a home and looking after children, who demand constant attention, can rob the partnership of its freshness, vibrancy and excitement. In Britain at least…
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Q. My husband doesn’t want to work. I’m working and providing everything in the house. Imagine I leave for work in the morning and I leave him in bed and i still have to come and cook supper for him…
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Differing Gender Approaches to Better Sex Both parties in any relationship, especially when the couples are older, bring a long sexual history, different instincts and preconceptions to the overall sexual experience. One partner may have masturbated almost daily since he…
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