May 14, 2015 Friends and Peers
There is no rocket science to being liked. The secret is in giving more than we take in life, For example, when was the last time someone gave you a compliment? Better still, when did you pay someone a compliment?…
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What many people do not realise is that it does not take a great deal of skill to have really interesting conversations, especially with strangers, and make some useful connections at the same time. Often we meet someone who seems…
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May 13, 2015 Friends and Peers
Respect is crucial to relationships because it means seeing people as individuals first, recognising their uniqueness and appreciating their difference. That is the first step to aiding understanding and enabling better communication. With perception being a powerful invisible force in…
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Q. “Lately I’ve just been depressed and the thought of suicide is something that comforts me instead of scaring me. All these thoughts have happened cos me and my girlfriend split up (she dumped me). We had such a good…
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May 2, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Yes it is. Different role perceptions who does the cooking, who makes the decisions, who works outside the home, etc., all have to be decided jointly, honestly and openly from the very beginning or at the first opportune moments. It’s…
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Non verbal communication between couples seems to be dictated heavily by gender. In relationships involving the young, it seems that it is the men who try to hold on to their partners. Young women, who mature earlier, tend to be…
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The Key Components of Physical Attraction There seems to be certain tendencies regarding attraction. We are likely to take as partners people we perceive to bear roughly the same level of physical attractiveness as we do, and the more attractive…
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April 24, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Should there be government grant for long relationships? It seems that long marriages are becoming a rarity these days, in view of the increasing divorce rates. Families should be encouraged to stay together through some kind of financial incentive. There…
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April 23, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Should I take him back? Q. My husband and I had a very serious problem and it almost ruin our family. He cheated on me many times and this time I gave up. I returned everything including our wedding ring….
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April 21, 2015 Friends and Peers
Any conflict is a contest of wills. It is about expressing concerns which reflect personal perception instead of a mutual reality. Contrary to popular belief, marriage breakdowns do not happen because of the ‘irreconcilable differences’ people often complain about. They…
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April 14, 2015 Friends and Peers
Some people have genuine difficulty getting others to like them while others find it almost effortless. Yet, we all have the potential to be well liked right there within ourselves. It is just a matter of finding it and acting…
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April 13, 2015 Friends and Peers
Q. Do you get mad at friends that do not agree with you? I have one friend that believes that gays are sinners and if they had faith they wouldn’t be gay. I believe that gays are gay because a…
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Q. “I find it hard to say NO to anyone. I keep saying YES until I feel resentful. Then I wind up blowing up. I really don’t like getting so angry, especially with my in-laws. I finally decided I couldn’t…
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April 9, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Would you care if your spouse lied to you? Q. If I found out that my spouse had been lying to me, it would really hurt a lot. Sometimes, he does keep little things from me. He doesn’t tell me…
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April 7, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
The Biggest Mistake Many Couples Make About Love and Sex Anything we do not use or encourage, we eventually lose. Happy, committed couples are very tactile, finding it difficult to resist touching each other because of their desire to be…
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April 7, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Yes, it can, but it is unlikely to do so for two key reasons: our own emotional evolution and a lack of reciprocity. First, as adults, we evolve through life as we age, and our needs are constantly changing to…
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As random as attraction appears to be between people, there is nothing random about it at all. It works on a complex level with definite rules. Attraction is primarily about possessing the qualities to satisfy five crucial factors: * To…
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The Impact of Loss in Emotional Life Are you still churning inside at the loss of a relationship? Feeling wronged by it? Can’t seem to let it go? Wishing you were still together or feeling angry at their actions? The…
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Finding Personal Courage to Leave A Bad Relationship It is the most difficult time trying to leave a relationship because those involved tend to look at the cost of the break-up and whom it will affect rather than the benefits…
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It seems that many people, including experts, believe you can tell someone’s personality just from looking at their face. But considering the millions of people with different faces, that is a hard one to accept without massive evidence! However, there…
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March 31, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Q. “How can you forgive a cheat and then forget about what happened? Forgive and forget’: The first is being noble – the second stupid. What do you think of that?” A. There is nothing ‘stupid’ about forgetting, because holding…
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March 30, 2015 Friends and Peers
Many friendships and relationships have broken up primarily because pride gets in the way. People find it hard to apologise for anything, or to simply say they’re sorry, even though they know they did something wrong or inappropriate. They feel…
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March 29, 2015 Friends and Peers
How should I deal with my husband and his best girlfriend? Q. My husband and his bestfriend relationship bothers me alot. They have known each other since high school. He was inlove all the time with her. But my husband…
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There seems to be a mystery surrounding why relationships remain constant, and how you can keep someone close to you, but, when you look closely, it is not difficult to see what binds relationships tightly, what really holds them together….
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The importance of eye contact is actually a cultural thing and can even cause some grave misunderstandings between cultures. Though it is expected in the main Western societies, like USA and the UK, as something which suggests integrity, sincerity and…
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Many relationships suffer from both parties allowing the routine home responsibilities to overwhelm their love life; being too busy to nurture their love and to make time for each other. This is most noticeable among people who have been together…
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How a Lack of Courtesy, Effort and Social Skills Online Can Rob You of Potential Dates Common courtesy seems to be escaping many people, women in particular, in responding to approaches. Many professional and articulate women are registered on websites,…
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The Importance of Confidence in Relationships In any relationship, no two people’s confidence will ever match to perfection. But successful couples tend to share part of a confidence continuum, usually the positive end, which increases the level of tolerance in…
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March 20, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Expectations in marriage do change over the years because of the natural evolution of the couple from one stage of life to the next. If we look closely at a relationship that has lasted at least 20 years, there is…
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Q. All men care about is satisfying their needs, and not the person. What does it say about a “man” that keeps trying to go out with loose girls that are too young for him? It is destructive when he…
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