Author Archive: Elaine Sihera

Q. Why do men cheat when they have a good woman? Surely, such men are no good? A. Obviously, women cheat too. But as the question refers to you personally, I will only deal with men here. Men cheat for…
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People nowadays are living in different times where both men and women can play the game of life by their own rules. With social independence for both genders, there is no compulsion to team up as couples, unless they really want…
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Imagine the situatuion: you;re young, in love and romantic Mr Right has just proposed. Not surprisingly, you’ve accepted. But this heady stage is precisely the time to have both feet on the ground. You have to be aware of signs…
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Sometimes when we meet someone new and we fancy him, it is easy to ignore the warning signals and miss the fact that he might not be as keen as we are in return. We want the happy ending so…
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Today’s woman is not too quick to commit to marriage and long term relationships for a variety of reasons that are not obvious on a superficial level. But four of them are most responsible for commitment phobia in women and…
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Yes, there is such a thing as a ‘perfect match’ but it depends on the degree of chemistry between the couple because this is a complex factor in relationships which is just more than physical attraction. Imagine you go out…
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Changing one’s personality for a relationship is never a good idea. It makes us into caricatures instead of real people. We all have core values which are non-negotiable. Those values define who we are, they define our personality, they give…
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Why Modern Man is Running Scared of Modern Woman Society favoured men because it was, and still is to a commercial extent, a man’s world where everyone knew his/her place. The majority of women stayed home, they did not work…
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How often have you heard the sad statement, “I’ve been dumped” by so and so, or you’ve used it to bemoan the loss of a valued partner? It is a common term used to express regret and perhaps resentment at…
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Q. What does it mean when the person you love says “YOU DESERVE SOMEONE BETTER?” Can you tell me your own perspective or your own view? A. This is the strongest indication of insecurity and low self esteem in the…
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Would you go back with a guy or girl who once dumped you? Q. My ex dumped me over 2 years ago because he said he needed his space. We had been together for 5 years and I never stopped…
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When we love someone and we feel they might not love us as much, that they might be attracted to someone else, or they seem distant and detached from us, it can lead to many anxieties as to how to…
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The 12 Cs of A Successful Relationship! There are many secrets to a successful relationship but the following 10 are guaranteed to give you the kind of partnership you seek, especially if they are practised by BOTH people within it….
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Six key tips for coping after breaking up Breaking up is a very difficult time for anyone and, no doubt, there would be lots of advice, especially from people who might not have experienced it! However, there are six simple…
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We are all nervous of speaking to strangers, especially those whom we might like or fancy. There is usually some apprehension of how the other person might react, whether they might be wondering about our real motives for contact, whether…
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Q. I have real concerns about my blind date, are they justified? On the date he just about talked me to death. Maybe he was just as nervous as me and that’s not really how he is. But he would…
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What is correct time and age for marriage? Age should only be a factor in marriage where there are plans to have children because women cannot have children after a certain age. But there should be no perfect time or…
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Love seems to blossom at work as more than 50% of couples meet their partners there. Having to work long hours, coupled with the social nature of the worklace, tend to bring people together much more than any other activity….
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Q. You just found out from a friend that your boyfriend is cheating on you with a one night stand. You confronted your boyfriend and he admitted that it happen. He explain that he was so drunk at that time…
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I think a woman wants my husband… Q. My husband is a Marine and works as a mechanic. There’s a woman who works with him that is being a little too friendly. She talks about her personal life to my…
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