December 24, 2013 Communication
There are a lot more than ten things that men wish women knew. But to try to address the challenge, here we go. 1. Men want women to know they are not barbarians. Some may like sports, some may be…
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There are simple steps to take to avoid a disappointing first date. The first is to talk to the person by phone, at least two or three times. Learn up front what topics you are both interested in. Learn tolerances…
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In those cultures where men play a role in family life, there is improved health, less child mortality, better education, sustainable family size, an uplifting out of poverty, more income opportunity and many other benefits. Not the least of benefits…
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December 2, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
A marriage is both an investment and a commitment. The best marriages are also great love stories. To make the third thing, working on the first two is key. It is often said that communication is a priority. This is…
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November 27, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
There is one primary reason that human beings remarry. They may marry other people, or often, they even remarry one another! The reason why people try marriage over and over is they wish to get it right! In the later…
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November 26, 2013 Crisis Support
Why doesn’t she just leave? There is a reason why. Women tolerate abuse from their husbands and boyfriends because they want the violence to end, not the love. They love their husbands and boyfriends. They know that he, too, if…
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Casual sex does happen more frequently now than ever before, but that is simply because there are more people now than ever before. Other factors that have changed include twenty first century attitudes. It is not necessarily the number of encounters per…
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November 13, 2013 Communication
Social networking has changed communication from person to person to short text notes between people, companies, web sites, and more. Not all changes are for the better, but tweeting, using face book, and event texting 140 or fewer characters, does…
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November 13, 2013 Communication
People who read articles on Helium are insightful, intelligent, compassionate and usually very creative. How persuaded a person may be may depend upon picking up, insightfully, at when they are being led on with such flattery. Yet, it is true. Insightfulness…
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November 11, 2013 Communication
Women cry more than men, primarily due to hormones. Women have more oxytocin, and are genetically wired to be nurturers. For this, they have increased alertness and sensitivity toward loss, threat, or fear. Human beings are animals that evolved to…
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November 7, 2013 Crisis Support
Therapy is not for everyone. For those in grieving though, a therapist almost always is helpful. This is because the purpose of most therapy is to help individuals cope with common stresses of life, but grief therapy is designed to directly…
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Differences in discipline techniques can create chaos in the home, and even in school, for the child who quickly learns how to press his or her advantage. The child’s perceived short term gain causes long term problems. The most important…
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November 1, 2013 Friends and Peers
At work, or even on a home or community project, cooperation is crucial. Human beings run into trouble when one colleague drops out of the forward movement of any project. The colleague exhibits unwillingness to try new things, and is…
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The idea of belonging is central to human survival. Within a family, belonging matters greatly, because those who feel alienated will suffer and fail to thrive, depriving the family of core strength and resilience. But many things need to be…
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From the moment we discover we are attracted to someone, a heightened sensitivity develops. When we become romantically involved with someone, some would call that increased sensitivity “love.” For the time being, looking at it from a psychological viewpoint, sensitivity…
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Women, contrary to some opinions, are not actually from another planet. There are things one can do to make a good impression on a first date. Although often men and women “perplex the heck” out of one another, at each…
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Human beings are mammals. They talk with verbal and written language, but as mammals they also talk with the full body. A closed and disinterested person will have folded arms and legs. This also reveals defensiveness too, so when a…
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People seldom know our own minds. If we did, we would make correct choices all the time, and would be aware of things like breathing, what we eat and drink, how we walk, and so much more. It is the…
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September 22, 2013 Communication
Words do not hurt. However, how human beings interpret words certainly hurts, and the tone used can indeed indicate anger, and even violence. This hurts the recipient by programming a fear of the “attack” words made. If a person were…
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People who have been burned by the flame are afraid of the fire. This is just part of the genetic human blueprint. When a person loses love the suffering can be traumatic and intense, it can delay the ability to…
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September 21, 2013 Crisis Support
Fearing death keeps people alive. Nevertheless, an unhealthy fear of death takes away precious moments of living. Varying cultures have different ideas, concerns, and traditions about death. Overcoming fears about death requires that people do not dwell on past failures…
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Procreation is not the reason for sexuality. Pair bonding is very important in those species where care of the infant organism is critical from both parents; but bonding is also majorly important to the couple themselves first and foremost. Humans…
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Love gets complicated quickly. Love, what some people see as an emotion, is much more than that. Love drives the world in many ways, and not just this world, but every world. What? Isn’t that kind of out there? It…
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September 6, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
The battle of the sexes has morphed from the earliest days of Gog pulling his wanted mate by the hair into his cave. Nowadays, Gog is usually named Bob, and he is deliberately hiding from his wife in his man…
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August 29, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
Your marriage is in trouble if you are afraid to disclose your concerns to your partner. What kind of concerns? You feel that you are pulling the entire burden financially, you feel resentment because your feelings are dismissed, you are…
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Piles of dirty laundry, books, papers, bills, toys and clutter everywhere do not spark great romance. Romance time should be a mini-escape from jobs, kids, toil, and housework and sometimes even the house itself. To set a mood for romance,…
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August 11, 2013 Marriage and Divorce
Date nights for couples are vital to keep connections intact. Set aside a set time, but keep open to flexibility and spontaneity. Dates nights, if you have children, should NOT be viewed as an escape from the kids. This matters,…
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Women think men care about looks because men care about looks. Men are more visually stimulated by how a woman appears. That said, there are many cultural conditioning programs at play as well. Women, after all, have many thousands upon…
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The term “gay agenda” is mostly whispered as a threat, by conservative intolerant bigots. That there really are human rights issues, however, is part of a true “gay agenda.” They want no more or no less than the simple decency…
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Men and women have to think differently. They have different anatomy, different values, different interests and different roles. Although there is still more overlap than not, men and women are genetically evolved for many varying preferences. Genes are termed “selfish”…
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