First, realize that most of us “lie” on first dates. It is natural to try to appear slightly better than you really are. Here is a secret, though: the best advice is to just be yourself. There is nothing wrong…
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There are ways, in dating, to learn what to look for in a partner that are most emotionally safe to an individual. Yet psychological abuse will always happen until people learn to never make any errors, and that is unlikely…
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May 15, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
There are so many reasons to marry a foreign wife it boggles the mind. Women from other nations are going to be extremely grateful to live in a culture where they are appreciated. In north America, and most of Europe,…
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There is only one intent of advertising on body image. The intent of all advertising is to make a person feel they should buy something. Once that simple rule is acknowledged, anything to be found in any advertisement should be easy to assess….
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Love at first sight is hotly debated. What is love at first sight? Does it exist? Most cynical people dismiss love at first sight as being merely lust. Lust certainly does occur upon first encounters between many people. Yet, to…
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The first thing to realize is that the best things in life, a walk by the river, a drink of cool clear water, an awesome day at the beach, are not free, but do cost your investment in connecting with…
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There are so many reasons to marry someone with money! There are some legitimate reasons for women to date a man with money. Even Lorelei Lee in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes can attest there is no reason not to fall in…
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November 24, 2014 Skin and Body
Most women feel they have inadequate breasts. Social cues teach insecurity, this is the basis of all advertising. We can learn to love and accept every body type, but this is a slow and very advanced process for humankind. Still,…
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October 25, 2014 Communication
The most rewarding way to deal with obnoxious people is to find a way that they realize their behavior is rude. They then can appreciate others, and realize their circumstances, and thus improve. In other words the most powerful way…
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September 28, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Date nights for married couples are vital to keep connections positive. Set aside a set time, but keep open to flexibility and spontaneity. Dates nights, if you have children, should NOT be viewed as an escape from the kids. This…
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September 25, 2014 Crisis Support
Is miscarriage a once upon a time story which could have a second chance for a happy ending, or a giant fairy tale in a bubble that never really had any reality to it at all? Our modern world is…
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To raise children in an unhappy world seems senseless. One would do better to see the happy world that can and does exist, if we cherish, appreciate, and teach our children that it is achievable. The only alternative of course,…
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To be happy about one’s appearance is to be happy about many other things as well. An attractive appearance is just one aspect of the many ways in which people feel valued. If they appreciate and value their appearance alone,…
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When you are lonely go to the source of all life, planet earth. Take a friend along if you can, if not, commune with your sisters, the nodding flowers. Connect with your brothers, the towering trees. Connect to the sky…
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When talking about women and men, and not girls and boys, the question of whether females care as much about sex, is a resounding YES. They may want sex for different reasons than men do, such as to create human…
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May 21, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
The passive aggressive person is someone who takes aim at your self esteem in order to make herself, or himself, feel superior in some way. The blow comes in a passive, rather than overt and obvious way. The important thing…
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Natural is always best. Labels do not always mean natural of course. There are thousands of reasons why using natural products is preferaable to anything divised by a chemistry lab, but first and foremost is health. Harmful chemicals are not…
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Lady Gaga knows how to get attention. She has turned this gift into outrageous music and video, but of late she has turned her talents to urging the repeal of DADT, Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy. DADT is the current…
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April 30, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
Divorce happens as part of life. Children need to learn that life has painful events, it is not their fault. In fact, it should be emphasized that fault is not a factor at all. Blame is something that children naturally…
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Ashes to ashes, dust to dust. That is what we often here about our eventual re-joining of the matter from which we came. Then the funeral industry came along and embalming became the preferred method for “preserving” the body for…
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Do not fall into the victim trap. Losing love hurts for a reason. The reason is to teach you how best to love. When we love and lose, and everyone does at some point, it hurts. To let go is…
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Homophobia is fear of homosexuals. Beyond that, the definition is wide open. Not everyone who “hates” homosexuals fears them, but upon close investigation of the homophobes’ emotions, they do sense some threat, although it is not a rational one. The…
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The best way to determine if you can improve relationships is to assess your relationship to life itself and to see what ways you feel blessed. The first step in healthy relationships is to acknowledge there is nothing in life…
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Spring is about to bloom and there is no better time to tell him you love him-and do it without words! Tracing your names in a heart on a steamed window is romantic. So is leaving a note on a…
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Those people with poor self esteem, a sense of entitlement, and confusion about victim hood tend to attract very negative relationships. The relationships are not just those with human beings, but all relationships that people sense are non supportive with…
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February 14, 2014 Communication
Is it FaceBook, or Fake-Book? Being wired to the whole world, one person at a time provides connection, but there are very real differences between real and live human interaction and tweeting, texting and online chatting. Many people today are…
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We judge what is unknown to us unconsciously, so we judge not knowing we too, will be judged. Why do People judge homosexuals? We judge because we are psychologically and sociologically wired to have automatic filters to know who belongs…
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We sometimes stay, even in bad relationships, hoping for the good to return. We are afraid of being alone, and believe the relationship can improve. Sometimes this is true, most times, not. People do not stay in bad relationships because…
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Human beings need human beings. We all become naturally attached to those we love, the familiar, and the habitual. Yet, when it is time to end a relationship we are often at a loss at how to keep looking forward….
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December 29, 2013 Communication
As with all relationships, the way to deal with conflict with elderly family members is with two major forces. The first force is compassion, the second force is communication. Compassion must come first, because no matter what, a person cannot…
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