August 21, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
It’s a mistake to look at it as ‘saving’ your marriage after infidelity, that implies negativity every time you say it. Look at it as rebuilding a stronger one, that’s a better angle. With this rebuilding comes one condition, you…
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How Do You Start A New Relationship? Don’t ‘think’ about it, take the first step and DECIDE you want a new relationship. The rest will fall into place. If you keep making excuses it will never happen. These guidelines will…
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Lay Out The Expectations! Whether you are chatting on-line, it’s your first date or your tenth or if you’ve been together for years, make sure you know each other’s expectations, both big and small, no surprises! If you lay the…
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The most perfect love is truly blind. Our egos suspended, disengaged, our eye’s closed. It’s when we look past the surface stuff, like appearance, tolerances, preferences, the way they dress and their personality. Because if these characteristics don’t fit into…
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He’s sooo cute, got ‘all’ the right answers, everybody loves him, he knows everyone and he’s always so busy! CAREFUL ladies…I smell a player. Now there are always exceptions to the rules but it’s important to be aware of…
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Can you fall for someone on-line? Five years ago I would have said ‘no,’ you’re crazy!’ Since then I’ve been seasoned and ‘yes’ you can find ‘the one’ on-line. Now I didn’t say it was going to be easy and…
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June 8, 2015 Friends and Peers
Support, support, support. It’s not necessarily what you say but what you do. Wrap your arms around them in a great big bear hug before you even open your mouth, my guess is that’s just what the doctor ordered. After…
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Lipgloss or Lipstick? Think Lady Gaga or Jennifer Aniston. Lipstick may suggest confidence, a kind of ‘in your face’ attitude. It is bold and a focal point, put on to be seen in bright, vibrant colours. Where lip gloss may…
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April 21, 2015 Friends and Peers
‘What makes you think you have the right to judge someone else?’ ‘Do you think you are better than everybody else?. Well you don’t and you aren’t. Unfortunately our ego’s program us to think we are always right…
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If only my crystal ball wasn’t in the repair shop! The only sure truth here is that if you ‘believe’ your girlfriend is cheating you will unconsciously create evidence to support this. Right or wrong that’s how we work. Blame…
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February 11, 2015 Friends and Peers
Making friends isn’t always as easy as it sounds. Some people are gifted and make friends in everything they do, others have to work at it a little bit. Here are a few strategies to help you create solid friendships…
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If only my crystal ball wasn’t in the repair shop again! Then I could guarantee the you’ve found ‘the one’. Seriously, how many times have you believed with all your heart that you found that special someone, even if it…
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January 1, 2015 Relationships and Family - Other
Well the truth of the matter is, ‘ you don’t! ‘ That’s not filling you full of lead here either, and just think about all this worrying you’ve done about how you are going to get rid of your ‘past baggage.’ The…
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November 3, 2014 Skin and Body
The market is enormous for teen personal products, particularly skin cleansers and lotions. Looking good is very important to most young people. Nobody wants to be known for having a pimply complexion and teenagers will do anything to avoid getting…
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Making the commitment to a longterm relationship is a big deal. It’s normal to question yourself as to whether or not you really do want something longterm. Here are 5 indicators that will help you figure out if a…
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There are loads of reasons why women choose to be with the ‘loudmouth, abusive, degrading, lying punk,’ rather than the ‘sweet, caring, understanding nice guy’. Here are a few points to ponder. Pattern A woman’s knowledge is only based on…
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September 5, 2014 Communication
Are You Getting What You Deserve In A Relationship? ARE YOU GETTING WHAT YOU DESERVE IN A RELATIONSHIP? Yes, love is blind, but you owe it to yourself to make sure you are getting what you deserve in a relationship. …
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July 12, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
I myself have never cheated on my partner and in a ‘normal’ loving, honest relationship the goal is not to be unfaithful to your partner. It technically shouldn’t be a ‘want’ of either party if they are satisfied with their…
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First impressions can make or break a date. It’s like buying a new house. It doesn’t matter that the inside is immaculate, if the outside needs painting and the front step is missing! It is sooo hard to look past…
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April 23, 2014 Marriage and Divorce
It all boils down to communication. ‘Not communicating’ is the only ‘bad habit’ that can ruin your marriage. Everything else can be worked around or pinned down to a nuisance. Very minor in the big picture. If you do not…
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February 14, 2014 Communication
Mark Twain once said, ‘If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything!’ Humorous yes, and it also makes a lot of sense. Now we all know that telling the truth is the right thing to do,…
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February 2, 2014 Communication
Does your car need gas? Do you get your furnace serviced regularly? A relationship of any sort is an investment and it needs to be nurtured to thrive. Do you go to your mechanic to get investment advice? So…
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January 29, 2014 Friends and Peers
Do you want the straight answer or the one with chocolate frosting and sprinkles? The answer is ‘NO,’ you should not try to remain friends with your ex. And there are a zillion reasons why. Unfortunately in most relationships there…
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December 28, 2013 Communication
Dangerous relationships aren’t just physically abusive. Often the mental and emotional abuse is more debilitating. A ‘cheater’ can be dangerous with the increased risk of disease. If your partner is putting you in harm’s way, you owe it to yourself…
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December 26, 2013 Communication
For me it was my crazy old farmer dad that I communicated best with. But honestly it depends on the age, stage and situation. There are so many different factors that can steer you towards or repel you from one…
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November 26, 2013 Crisis Support
It’s not your decision, yes, suicide can be justified, as an exception to the rule, not the rule. Now I don’t feel it’s fair for anybody to take their own lives under ‘normal’ circumstances, actually I believe strongly it’s…
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November 24, 2013 Communication
Does your car need gas? Do you get your furnace serviced regularly? A relationship of any sort is an investment and it needs to be nurtured to thrive. Do you go to your mechanic to get investment advice? So…
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November 11, 2013 Communication
‘The heart that is soonest awake to the flowers is always the first touched by the thorns.’ Famous quote by Thomas Moore that’s so very true. In general sensitivities are more prevalent in women than men, according to Judith Orloff,…
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Although there are varying degrees, gender identity is biological, it is encoded in our hard drives. Same as our reproductive organs are hardwired in our genetic make-up. Not forgetting that mental, sociological and environmental factors all influence the degree of…
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‘Who am I?’ ‘Where did I come from?’ And I”m not talking about your name and your home town! I mean back before even your parents can remember. In fact as far back as you can trace on paper, then further…
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