November 16, 2015 Crisis Support
There is never a time when it’s easy to lose a loved one. This part of life leaves our world with a big hole in it where the person used to fit. This empty place will never be filled with…
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Every single person has friends, relatives and acquaintances who think they have just the right guy for you. For some reason, they think you must have a man in your life to be happy, and they are willing to help…
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Is love really worth it? What a question! Unfortunately, I understand where it comes from. Anytime you love someone it involves trusting that person with those feelings. Sooner or later, and usually more than less, someone is going to step…
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November 3, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
In this day, where you see infidelity almost 24/7 on TV, movies,…, women often find it hard to believe a man can possibly be faithful. I personally find it hard to believe, and I know part of this is how…
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November 3, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Married women have affairs for the same reasons married men do. They believe, in some part of their brain, that it is justified. When we make a commitment to another person, that includes no cheating. But, when things start to…
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The very best way to attract members of the opposite sex is to have confidence in yourself. If you like yourself, you will attract others to you. This includes members of the opposite sex. As an over-weight person in high…
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Relationship woes abound, and being in a long distance relationship adds to the problems. Long distance relationships are doable though. I know of several examples, but I will use my parents. My grandmother (Elizabeth) begged my mother (Marilyn) to write…
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October 28, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
No couples should not live together before getting married. Statistics alone would bear me out on this. More couples divorce after having lived together than those that did not. Playing house doesn’t tell you whether you can make it together…
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Singles have always been ‘desperate for coupledom’ in some ways. Most wanted to marry and have families. However, even less than 100 years ago, there were taboos in place that kept people from going out hunting willy nilly for a…
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People often say when you’re really in love, you’ll just know it. We’ve all experienced the sweaty palms and butterflies that come along with intense attraction. This, however, is not love, it is attraction. It is intense, but it will…
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Ah, the boomerang boyfriend – you keep tossing him away and he keeps coming back. I have experienced this myself, but I have more often watched it. My son, before his marriage, seemed to like women who had “pasts”. When…
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I faced this issue when I faced the dating scene again after a divorce. I had a small son to take care of. Fortunately for me, a man who was already my friend and that of my son became my…
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Belt-less pants droop below the bottom line, and reveal a thong or a pair of boxer shorts to anyone who wants to look. Who knew this look would some day lead to a debate over whether the look should be…
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September 18, 2015 Communication
Unless you are in the job of politics or possibly the news, politics doesn’t make for good conversation around the water cooler. Political topics, while fun to debate, can lead to hot tempers and long term relational difficulty. In other…
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September 17, 2015 Communication
I recently heard my father telling someone a story about his life. He was discussing his step dad who had raised him since he was 3 years old. He said my mother and he used to get into it fairly…
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Unfaithfulness can take many forms. We can be spiritually unfaithful to God, we can be unfaithful to a friend by telling secrets (or keeping secrets), and we can be unfaithful to our spouse long before an actual affair occurs. Adultery…
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Dealing with a controlling partner takes a lot of tact, and a lot of guts. When we think of a controlling person, we often think of the angry spouse who watches ever penny, or every move of his/her partner. This…
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I confess: I am the procrastinating partner. I don’t really mean to do it (or do I?) it just seems that I get caught up in other things. When push comes to shove, I always get the important things done…
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One of the most important components of happiness in any relationship is compromise. We all come into relationships with our own set of values and our own family culture. These natural differences inevitably lead to conflict between the two people….
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July 28, 2015 Friends and Peers
If a friend has Jekyll and Hyde tendencies, it can increase the difficulty of maintaining the friendship. Which friend will show up today? Dealing with someone who has mood issues is like riding a roller coaster with continual ups and downs, flips…
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Is this a true statement? Do boys ONLY look for physical beauty? If it is true, then why are there so many couples out there with a handsome man and a not so handsome woman? Men do look for beauty,…
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A few weeks ago, my family went to a restaurant to eat. In a booth next to us sat a man and two women, obviously mother and daughter. Unfortunately, not only did they look alike, they also dressed alike! Both…
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Looking unprofessional is the least of your worries if you follow the current trend to wear your jeans below your behind parts! As a substitute teacher at a high school for several years, I saw more under-ware than a person…
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Unfortunately, calling dating a ‘game’ is more than accurate. And players abound.The purpose of the dating scene is three fold: To find a life-partner/mate. To have fun To find sexual partners. The problems really come in when the two daters…
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As the parent of two boys, I can tell you parents often have nerves about meeting their son’s girlfriend for the first time too. With nerves tight on the part of the parents, the girlfriend, and often the son as…
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Is there such a thing as emotional cheating? Absolutely! Sadly, many of us have been guilty of this type of cheating and may not have even known it. Often our conscience or social, religious or family sanctions will keep us…
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Dealing with people who drain your energy can be tricky. Of course children, grandchildren, and other youngsters can drain your energy when you try to keep up with them, but we’re talking about people who just seem to suck everything…
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June 27, 2015 Friends and Peers
Friendships are precious things and should be kept and maintained if at all possible. I still write a friend from fourth grade even though we’ve lived apart since fifth grade. The hallmark of a great friendship is being able to…
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June 19, 2015 Marriage and Divorce
Once a man and woman have conceived a child, it is the child of two people, not one. In marriage especially, one should discuss the issue with a spouse before an abortion and come to a decision together. I don’t…
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“Can’t buy me love, money can’t buy me love…” This line from a Beatles song says it all. Love, the real kind is above being bought. Who doesn’t want to find love? We all love being loved and many love being…
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